Join JustParents to ask for advice and make new friends! It only takes 60 seconds. Join for free

what can we do, i'm heart broken?

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
hi all.
well what a day. i just had my brother here in tears coz he found out that a 9 year old little boy has been trying to get his 6 year daughter to do rude things.
we have had a lot of problems with my niece for a while now, getting called into the school, bad behaviour, not sleeping etc, we just thought she was a little monkey but a few weeks ago 1 of the mums at her school stopped my brothers ex and told her this little boy had tryed to get another little girl to do rude things but coz she is friends with the mum she didnt want to believe it and was biding her time to chat with her about it, but the other night when my niece wouldnt go to sleep her mum asked her few questios about this boy and in the end my niece came out with all kinds of rude things he tryed to get her to do, her mum was heart broken and didnt know what to do so she called the police. they went to her house that night and took a statement of what my niece had said, a few days later social services turned up and questioned my niece alone and what she told them was the same as she had told her mum, the social worker said he believes my niece and also is sure that nothing actually happened to her,but this was bad enough.
the boys mum has denied it all saying it was my nieces fault and now some of the other mums at the school are taunting my nieces mum when she takes and collects my niece from school, we have heard that the boy is now having counciling. my niecs mum has tried to get her into a different school but it has been refused, but the school have been keeping my niece away from this boy and we have all noticed a huge diffrence in my nieces behaviour, even her teacher has said how much her work has improved. we are going to do what ever it takes to get my niece out of the school.
my brother didnt tell me before coz i am a bit firey and he didnt want me going off on one and doing something silly which i have had to promise i wont.
but i am totally heart broken coz she is my baby and i totally adore my family and would go to the of the earth for any of them.
how can we get my baby out of this school? Angry


hipmommahipmomma
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
oh god hunni thats awful, i cant help with anything to do with her moving school but here sending you lots of love and strength to help you through xXx Kiss

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
thank you hipmomma Kiss

BedheadBedhead
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I've no idea what to suggest but sending you all big hugs and I hope you find a solution, glad your niece seems to be feeling better already, Kerry Kiss

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Have you contacted you local education office and asked them. The school has to have a very good reason to refuse her.

I cant imagine what you are going through Kiss

AprilsmummyAprilsmummy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Can't help but wanted to send you lots of hugs. Can't imagine what you are all going through.

Salx

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

alex said:
Have you contacted you local education office and asked them. The school has to have a very good reason to refuse her.

I cant imagine what you are going through Kiss

they refused her coz she is alredy in a local school so they think she should stay there rather then move herto another local school Mad

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
thanks for all the hugs and love being sent, it means a lot! Love Kiss

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hugs hun, it should be the boy that moves and not your niece!

As to the other mums that have been taunting, shame on them! Tounge Out They would be different if it was their LO one!

Kiss xx

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
i agree candgsmum, thank you for u'r support Very happy

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

kel said:

alex said:
Have you contacted you local education office and asked them. The school has to have a very good reason to refuse her.

I cant imagine what you are going through Kiss

they refused her coz she is alredy in a local school so they think she should stay there rather then move herto another local school Mad



I would pursue it hun. there is a child protection issue here. Go to your local education officer or your MP if you have to.( I know Scotland is different but if you want to move your child here you can and unless schools are full they can refuse you)

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
thanks for the advice i think i need to have a word with my nieces mum.
shes not very forthcoming but i am so i'll do it i have to. i'll do anything for my niece, shes my 'little tinker' as i call her.
funny, she stayed with me at the weekend and i was only saying to my mum yesterday how i noticed a real difference in her behaviour and how suddenly she has grown up and now i know why, poor little baby.
thanks again Very happy

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hope all goes well xx

alis378alis378
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hi hun, firstly I'm so sorry this is happening to your family and cant even begin to imagine what it must be like for your niece.

Secondly, her mum really should pursue this further. Has the social worker had any contact with education welfare, I would have thought that there involvement would be paramount to getting your niece moved.

Good luck hun
x

kelkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
the social worker didnt really do much to be honest, he was very good with my niece but hasnt done anything since except make the boy see a child phyologist.
i live in a different area (only 5 miles away) and have told my brother to apply to schools in my area and say they live here. my nieces mum drives so as much as its a pain to have to drive 5 miles each way everyday, it would be worth it for my nieces safety and for her future...i think

staceybstaceyb
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
- My blog
omg hun. sending you massive ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

what an awful thing to happen. i hope she manages to get into another school, although i agree with candgsmum in that the boy should be moved and not yr niece. i cant believe those parents would believe that a 6yr old child would lie about something like that. Mad

hope things get sorted hun xxxxx

chezchez
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
hi hunni i am really sorry to here that it is awfull. try contacting the education again and explain everything if they say no again ask them for there odbudsmans contact details they may try and refuse you it or say they havent got one but they will have they have to have one by law but they s**t themselves when you say you are contating them and threaten to go to papers they should soon get there acts into gear. when you contact the odbudsman he should over turn it and appeal and find her another school. please let me know how you go on hunni x x x

Join JustParents for free to reply

Search

Questions needing your answer

Latest Reviews