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Do you leave your baby home alone?

kirstkirst
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
IMO i wouldnt ever leave my 3 children alone. i sit in garden of a night time if its nice but have the monitor on so i can hear them and lock the front door so noone can get in. i think in light of whats happened its not really advisable


Krystal1310Krystal1310
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
No i wouldnt leave Becky on her own.
you never know who is around now adays

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Thanks all for your replies/comments. i don't think i will leave my LO alone anymore, but am not sure about leaving him with a babysitter either. (i'd worry more about them & what they could do to him than him being alone asleep in his cot) with me listening on the monitor. Do you girls use babysitters or do you never go out? I don't have family or anyone I totally trust who can babysit, what should/can i do if i want to go out once in a while. I don't want to disrupt his sleeping pattern & drag him along with me making him stay awake or sleeping in a pushchair(as some parents do).

debbiemumof3debbiemumof3
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Honestly Cathy, I never go out without her. I'm exclusively breastfeeding, so it would be impossible for me. I'd love to go out but it'll be a while yet.

I'm also very select about who I leave my children with and would only leave them with my hubby or my best friend.

All I can suggest is that you take him with you, or how about invite people over to your house for dinner or a few drinks.

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Thanks, i have had people over to mine, but of course they always want to return the favour. i've taken him with me on a couple of occassions (New Years eve & house warming party). But its more if say me & hubby wanted to go out for a quick meal at the local pub on our anniversary or something (wouldn't want to take LO to the pub/restaurant). LO is 13 months now so doesn't usually wake & doesn't need feeding in the night. Haven't been "out" together since he was born. Apart from to neighbours with baby monitor plugged in at theirs. Oh to be a parent. Shocked

debbiemumof3debbiemumof3
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
It is hard bein a parent!!!

You obviously have a good relationship with your neighbours, so how about asking them to babysit so you and hubby can go out and have some fun.

hipmommahipmomma
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
If you have a hunt in the yellow pages or whatever, as well as standard childminders, you do find that some registered childminders work on a babysitting schedule instead of daycare.

This is something i started to look into when i was living alone. This way you know you are getting someone qualified. It would be the same as assesing a childminder or nursery for care if you had to work.

They are more expensive than a 'babysitter' but i wouldn't leave my kids with a teenager. I babysat around the age of 14/15, and although i was there and generally not doing anything i shouldnt, i wouldnt have been happy with me then looking after my kids now...i hope that makes sense.

jo-jojo-jo
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I feel for Maddie's parents so much and cant imagine the fear or pain they are going through.I guess everyone has there own idea/instincts on raising their children.In Australia we have problems with parents leaving LO in the car while they gamble in the casino's most of them are found alive but some are not' in Australia the temperature in a car even on a mild day is "HOT". As far as leaving LO alone at home even if at the neighbours place i couldn't do it and i think there is some kind of law in Australia against it.My thoughts are with Chez and family it only takes a few seconds for a tragedy to occur but i do see other's views we also cant live in constant fear.

kizzykizzy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

CathyG said:
In view of various other debates & posts about whether or not to leave your child home alone, just had a question.

If i were to go to a neighbours house for a meal/drink (taking my baby monitor & plugging it in at their house)but leaving by baby asleep in his own bed (checking in on him every 1/2hour or so) is this considered home alone? & is it illegal? I have done it a few times, but since the whole Maddi thing, i'm wondereing whether i should do it again. I live in a terraced cottage, so my neighbour is attached to our house & the monitor works fully & i can hear my LO perfectly. Comments/views please.


personally i think its disgustin you even think of leavin a kid home alone ,nio matter how close by you are.
if you want a social life ,get a sitter or dont have kids,sooooooooooo much happens ,you only have 2 listen to the news ..our kids are so precious!!

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

kizzy said:

CathyG said:
In view of various other debates & posts about whether or not to leave your child home alone, just had a question.

If i were to go to a neighbours house for a meal/drink (taking my baby monitor & plugging it in at their house)but leaving by baby asleep in his own bed (checking in on him every 1/2hour or so) is this considered home alone? & is it illegal? I have done it a few times, but since the whole Maddi thing, i'm wondereing whether i should do it again. I live in a terraced cottage, so my neighbour is attached to our house & the monitor works fully & i can hear my LO perfectly. Comments/views please.


personally i think its disgustin you even think of leavin a kid home alone ,nio matter how close by you are.
if you want a social life ,get a sitter or dont have kids,sooooooooooo much happens ,you only have 2 listen to the news ..our kids are so precious!!


Thanks for being so blunt! I didn't want a social life as you so put it & I would always put my boy first. i consider him very safe in our neighbourhood, so did not think any harm would come to him, by popping next door. Obviously i'm a bad mother & shouldn't have had him! Very constructive comment thanks.

BedheadBedhead
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

kizzy said:

CathyG said:


personally i think its disgustin you even think of leavin a kid home alone ,nio matter how close by you are.
if you want a social life ,get a sitter or dont have kids,sooooooooooo much happens ,you only have 2 listen to the news ..our kids are so precious!!

Kizzy, do you never leave your LO in the house while you peg out washing? Do you never sit in the garden in the evening in the summer after the kids are asleep? Cathy was hardly suggesting leaving her son while she went to the pub, I think your response is rather rude.

hapydazyhapydazy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I live on the 2nd floor of a 3 floor apartment blding... a family on each floor, the first floor being my landlord's. One evening around 9pm I thought I heard a knock on my door (a very quiet one) I looked through the peephole and saw nothing so figured it came from the apt above... few seconds later I hear faint knocking again, I look again and see no one through the peephole, I put my chain across, open the door and there before me is the little girl (6 yo at the time) from downstairs, tears streaming down her face. She said to me, do you know where my mommy is? Of course knowing that the father works 3rd shift and there is also a 4 year old, almost 2 year old and infant who also live there I felt alot of panic inside. I asked Chelsea if she had looked all over the house for her mommy and she said yes, I asked her if all the other babies were ok and she said yes (Ok, little sigh of relief) Then I remembered that the landlord is friendly with the family on the 3rd floor so I went up there with Chelsea and knocked... Chelsea's mom answered the door with a look of shock seeing me standing there with her daughter. She had just gone upstairs briefly to talk to the 3rd floor tenant, all the kids were asleep, and there is a lock to the door to the outside of the buiding so she didn't think much of it. To this day she still says to me, OMG, thank God it was you who lived there and not some freak who opened the door to her very beautiful 6 year old girl in her jammies. She now doesn't leave her kids alone even to go upstairs for a moment... I'm sure you all will agree that it may not have been the smartest thing to do, but I'm sure we could all find ourselves easily in a similiar situation. I have to take my dog out to the downstairs to go potty and don't always bring Aaralyn with me, but even then, she could hurt herself in seconds and I'm thinking as I'm typing this that I really shouldn't even do that.. mind you, I'm not taking the dog for a walk, just out to the yard below. I have to admit this is the first thread since I've joined this forum that seems to have gotten a little heated... I don't think from what I can tell so far that anyone here would do something to purposely put their child in harms way... sometimes we learn along the way and from other people's positive advise also. I want to apologize that this got so long Embarassed

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