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IVF for me ?and my story

licelaelicelae
posted 5 months 2 weeks ago
HEY THERE ALLL THIS IS MY FIRST TIME POSTING YAAA ME. My name is Klina and I just love this forum so much I swear.the atmosphere and the people are just amazing here.The best part is I don't have to keep things to myself and can be final open about them.I have been dealt with infertility by life.Yes dealing with is because I back in 2016 I was 14 weeks pregnant.I had a road accident which ruined me and destroyed my life for the years to come.Long story short is I have no ovaries or fallopian tubes, and multiple disc inside me.I am in great health though and I really want to conceive again.Not naturally obviously, maybe try out IVF with donor eggs.If nothing else works then most likely I will have to go for adoption or surrogacy.I really don't want to go that route mostly because of the expenses.Is there anyone with a story like me out there.I would love to interact with you guys just to get more insight.Take care of yourself guys and much love to you all.


pearlpearl
posted 5 months 2 weeks ago
licelae it makes me sad. Whenever I read about the infertility of some I began to cry. Because it’s not their fault. Why people don’t understand this thing.? Well, I am really sorry for your condition. Feel free to ask anything on this forum. No doubt people are really very supportive. They try their best to answer you with maximum certainty factor. If you are thinking about surrogacy, then it’s may be an option. Why you are not considering other treatments.? Maybe you get pregnant with them. Your ovaries may produce enough ova for pregnancy. If you face failure from all sides, then mold your directory in such way. Otherwise, keep trying natural tips. They will help you by keeping your immune system strong. Carry on with these thoughts…

lina6765lina6765
posted 5 months 2 weeks ago
Do not be worried. Donor eggs would really solve your problem. I am sure that IVF is the right solution for you right now. Consult your OBGYN about it. If nothing works out then you already have sorted out what to do. Surrogacy is always there to help you. Just don't be hopeless as that won't help you in any way. Think positive and keep trying.

licelaelicelae
posted 5 months 2 weeks ago
YES, soomal I absolutely love this forum.Unlike some other forums where people hide behind a screen.I accidentally posted my story on on one of those forums.Better I keep the name hidden because I don't even want to generate traffic for that.The whole experience was absolutely scary, to say the least.sadly I was thinking the same thing.At the back of my mind, there is such a paradox.I believe in miracles but I also think It won't really work for me because of my condition.Also yes I am afraid of wasting money because honestly speaking I just can't afford multiple cycles.I have two directions to take at the moment.Either go for around 3 to 4 cycles for IVF or to go for surrogacy.Right now the latter seems like the better one.Let's see where we go with this.Thank you so much for the reply I really hope you're life is treating you better.I will discuss these options with my DH.Take care of yourself, you guys.

licelaelicelae
posted 5 months 2 weeks ago
Thank you so much for the kind replies ladies.This really is a wonderful place.you're words mean a lot to me.I have been dealing with depression for such a long time.I know it may not look like it but that's the thing about depression.I try to be all lively and happy but deep down its so troubling.My DH is all I have left if I lose him where am I even suppose to go.sorry for the vent again, take care of yourself guys I really hope all goes well for you.

licelaelicelae
posted 5 months 12 hours ago
Thank you for the reply lina.Yes, that does seem like the logical way to go.The real question was whether I would be a good candidate.Which clearly I am not.I've had a meeting with my specialist about my decision.He advised against conceiving on my own.He actually said something that really made me think.He said there are 2 metallic discs in your backbone and you are internally stitched.Do you really want to conceive in such a state? This really killed my confidence in IVF.Probably for the best.Surrogacy is like that ultimate grand aunt that is always there for everyone.You are right about that.Might go for it in the future and see where things go.Thank you for the kind reply and take care of yourself love.Sending lots of love and unasked baby dust your way.

leenahaydenleenahayden
posted 4 months 4 weeks ago
Hey. I hope you are well. Your case is quite different. This is the first time I'm hearing about such a situation. I don't know if IVF will work for you. I'm not a doctor. But if you can, there is no harm in trying. Everyone wants to carry their own baby. But I feel like surrogacy would be a better option for you. You can minimize the risks that way. It is your decision. I suggest you don't rush into things. Think about it properly before you make your decision. Good luck. Keep us updated.

lina6765lina6765
posted 4 months 4 weeks ago
I am so sorry for what you went through. You had to lose your child. It must have been a bad experience. I hope you have gotten over it. I am sure you will find a suitable treatment. Surrogacy will be a nice option. Ask your DH for suggestions.

KenethJamesKenethJames
posted 4 months 4 weeks ago
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry about your accident. I know how it feels. I had a similar accident. however, i had surrogacy. IVF is a great choice too. I hope it works for you. Good luck to you.

licelaelicelae
posted 4 months 4 weeks ago
Thank you so much for replying marie450.which clinic are you talking about?Can you expand on that a little more, please?Also please do share your story with us.you seem to be going some troubles of your own I see.I wish everything goes well and smoothly for you.Whatever choice you may choose I hope your DH is supportive of it as well. this is so important I believe to have someone that believes in you.Surrogacy does sound like a good option over here.I just do not think I may be able to pay for like a 100k for the process.you feel me?I have had so many medical dues to pay because of my injuries.only some of the procedures were financed.Nothing like the metal plates in me was.So there a big hurdle my way in terms of that also.

licelaelicelae
posted 4 months 4 weeks ago
aww, once again I feel very humbled.Thank you all the ladies for the reply.I feel so very humbled.I had been facing this issue for such a long time.I am glad to have found you guys.Thank you so much for the kind words and motivation.I have gotten so many ideas from you guys.I will surely be following your advice.I hope this post helps out other people going through the similar struggle.

SandraSmeltzSandraSmeltz
posted 4 months 3 weeks ago
Hi Klina.I am sad to hear that you had the bad time in life.Losing a child, such a tough and horrible face of life.Dear, If IVF couldn't work you have to go through for surrogacy.I had my baby through this process.I am also scared and worrying about the expenses.My husband is not really stable and well off.We both want the baby and desperate for the child.But our bad luck that I had not enough money that I have to take this process.But I believe that with positive thoughts, you find everything possible.I am searching and then found the clinic in Ukraine.Where I had proceeded this process.I am highly thankful to the staff and everything.I had a fantastic experience in the clinic.I am sure you have also the better situation in future.

ElinaWillsElinaWills
posted 4 months 3 weeks ago
Sorry for your loss licelae, at times it’s really tough to understand what fate has written for you. But you have been all through it, strong. I know the devastation of having zero chances of conceiving is itself dreadful. Nevertheless, the modern science has brought many other ways for you can achieve motherhood. You have an option as mentioned IVF, adoption or surrogacy. Talk with obgyn what’s best for you. I would suggest you put adoption as your last resort. Surrogacy will allow you to have your own genetic child without having to carry it. Explore your options and chose what suits you best.

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