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polycystic ovarian syndrome

ellsmithellsmith
posted 8 months 2 weeks ago
Hi guys!! I hope you all will be enjoying best of your health. I am new in this forum and I am very happy to see the collaborative efforts of members for making it very fruitful for those who have complications in their conception, pregnancy and birth. Its good to know that everyone is keen to give helpful suggestions to the needy. I am also here to discuss the matter of my friend. She has been married for about 4 years but she couldn’t get pregnant till yet although she tried every possible method. Now the doctors are saying that she is having PCOS and its very complicated for her to become a mother in future. I am very much worried about her as she is very sensitive lady and her husband is not showing good behavior after knowing her illness. She has been completely shattered. I cannot see her pain and her continuous depression is making my life very disturbing. Some of her relatives are suggesting her for IVF or surrogacy. But according to me, there is no need of surrogacy at this time. She has to wait for the treatment to be accomplished and then take any decision. But she is very confused now and is not getting an appropriate answer. I want you all to give me a good suggestion for her. Thanks.


AliciaJuarezAliciaJuarez
posted 8 months 2 weeks ago
Hey there. I hope you're doing good. Yes, you're right. We're just like a family here. We care for each other. And try to help each other like we're a team. Secondly, I'm so sorry about your friend's PCOS. Actually, it can be treated by considering good lifestyles. Suggest her to do yoga on daily basis. Try eating healthy fiber food. And avoid junk food. I know that she must be very depressed over the situation. Support and love is everything in these hard times. But her husband is also not showing her any support. This is really the worst thing ever. Suffering from one thing and not getting enough love and support. Try making her feel good. Spend more time with her. She'll be fine in that way. Suggest her this forum too. Take care of yourself and your friend. I hope everything goes right for her. Much love.

jasm098jasm098
posted 8 months 2 weeks ago
Hello ladies.I have PCOS and have had two babies.The Drs kept throbbing me off too until I decided not to try anymore and the following month I fell pregnant. Although it did take me a while to fall pregnant, it will happen once your friend is stressfree and least expect. Try not to stress, have the mentality of what will be.... will be and enjoy it.I'm sure your friend will be fine. All the best for the future of your friend.

pearlpearl
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
yeah ellsmith it's very helpful. Really when I didn’t join forums I always feel little bit fear and remain confused. But I think now I have developed enough nerve to argue with others. That this thing might be better than this. I think your knowledge becomes mature when you like to share others. It enhances your capabilities. These forums are like a family where no one like to harm you. everybody wants to protect you by giving suggestions. Feeling sad for your friend. My prayers are with her. Yeah, you are actually right in a sense that she can afford surrogacy at her older age. But at this time she should wait with patience. Try to convince her husband to support her in this matter. Maybe after his support, some miracle happens. No one knows what the actually y he/she will get. Should give her luck a chance to test. Next, your decision matters.

LisaAdamsLisaAdams
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry to know about your condition.
I would suggest you consult some experienced doctor for your condition. This is the condition which is getting in way of many people on the journey of TTC. I would suggest you consult the doctor soon. Waiting and wasting your time will give you nothing.
I hope you will get the right direction soon. Wishing you luck in future. Lots of baby dust on your way.

KarenHawkinKarenHawkin
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Happy to see you here.Welcome to this forum.I am also having PCOS.Try to convince your friend to be strong and keep trying.The most important thing I have told you that is your diet.You should eat the healthy diet and avoid junk foods.Always try to keep relax.With stress you never ever get success.Hope you are getting better and healthy.

ElizabethjonElizabethjon
posted 7 months 2 weeks ago
Hey there. I hope that you're doing good. Firstly, welcome to the forum. You're right. You'll only get love and support here. Secondly, I'm really sorry for your friend's condition. I'm really sad to know that her husband is not showing a good attitude. In the worst conditions of our life, we always need some support. Support and love increase strength and hope of a person. Yes PCOS can make it difficult to conceive for a woman. They cause many hormonal imbalances. They also disturb ovulation and menstruation. PCOS is dangerous but not incurable. They are curable. Proper and healthy lifestyles can reduce their effect. Metformin and birth control pills are taken for this purpose. She should wait for a little. She should wait for her recovery and then TTC again. This will be fine if she takes proper care of herself. I hope that you got my point. Take care of your friend. Much love

VirginiaRossVirginiaRoss
posted 7 months 2 weeks ago
Hello ellsmith! Welcome to the forum. You are very right. Their effort really does deserve an appreciation. We are all here to either get helped or to give some suggestions with our experience. Its so good to be a part of a helping community. I'm sorry for your friend. But also happy that she has a caring friend like you. You are doing a great thing looking out for her like this. More power to both of you. As for her husband, maybe if he is unable to understand her he doesn't deserve her. She should be sorry for him. Anyways, PCOS is quite a common thing now a days. IVF and surrogacy can both be suitable for her. It is though best that she get the opinion of a good OB before opting for a procedure. This is a very importaant decision. It should be an informed one.

leenahaydenleenahayden
posted 6 months 3 weeks ago
Hey, Ell. How are you doing? Guess what? my very close friend is going through the same situation too. She was recently diagnosed with PCOS. She still tried to conceive. But nothing happened. She knew this would happen. Anyway, she lost all hope too. But I finally convinced her to consider IVF. She did her research and now she is ready to go for it. According to the research, a lot of women who had PCOS shared this success IVF stories. So we are very hopeful now. Her clinic has confirmed her first IVF cycle next month. IVF is a great option in this case. I'm sure it will work for your friend as well. She should waste any more time in my opinion.

KenethJamesKenethJames
posted 6 months 3 weeks ago
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your friend's condition. I am glad to see such a nice friend. It's great that you care about her so much. Everyone should have such friends. I can understand what she must be going through. I know this my I have been through this too. I am an infertile person too. I am really sorry to hear about her husband. It looks like he doesn't love her much. Or maybe he is just worried too. Talking about IVF and surrogacy. They are great options. They are a blessing for people like me and her. I wish everything works out. Wishing her good luck. Take care.

EmilykEmilyk
posted 6 months 2 weeks ago
What kind of a human is her husband? He should be her biggest support at this time. Rather he changed his behavior. I feel immense hatred for such men. I thank God daily for giving me such a considerate husband. He was there for me when I was unable to give him a child. He supported me in my decision of Surrogacy. Now you are right that she should wait before surrogacy. Has she considered IVF? Maybe that can help her. What treatment is she undergoing for her issue? How old is she? You should sit down with her and talk in detail. Give her hope and strength. I will pray for her too. Loads of positivity and love.

ezabelezabel
posted 6 months 2 weeks ago
Hey! How are you doing? Prayers for your friend You are right! She must go for the fertility test. But at the same time, she has to be very calm. This is a tough life. And a very tiring journey. But I would suggest you let her find her own ways. Either if she herself wants to go for IVF than this must be her choice. Good luck to you both.

SandraSmeltzSandraSmeltz
posted 6 months 2 weeks ago
Hey there! You are being a good friend. I liked that about you. But sometimes we can be extra cautious for the people we love. Honey, surrogacy is not an experimental procedure anymore. It is being practiced successfully in many countries. You should not stop her from it because it is ttotally reliable. Your main concern should be the need of your friend. What is the reason of her infertility? Is she a good candidate for ivf? Or is it better to go straight to surrogacy? These are the main concerning question. After you have them answered, start searching for a clinic. Because searching for a good clinic is the main part. This determines the success of your procedure. Look into all of that. Good luck.

ElinaWillsElinaWills
posted 6 months 1 week ago
Ells, your concern is real. Also, depression affects the body and health. Your friend must seek a fertility treatment. Moreover, to get her hopes high up, the woman with PCOS can get pregnant. I have seen cases where a woman had PCOS, after few changes in diet and medications, she conceived. So, tell her not t despair. The conditions are treatable. Now, that's the good news. Even if everything fails she has options for assisted conception if everything fails. Surrogacy will allow her to have her own biological child. This is what I have opted for after TTC for nearly 9 years. Making certain changes to your diet do encourage conception with PCOS. She can get pregnant naturally if her PCOS is not severe. You can ask her to see a fertility doctor in order to be sure of her condition and her chances for conceiving naturally. Good wishes.

Julanna1Julanna1
posted 6 months 5 days ago
Hey there! I hope you're well. I'm really sorry to hear about your friends' situation. I hope things start looking up for her, soon. It is a really tough spot to be in. She should remember that there are a lot of alternatives, though. Good luck to her!

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