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posted 6 years 5 months ago
Hi guys. My name is Samantha. I am not in the happiest place right now. I feel like the world is going against me. My husband and I have always wanted to have children of our own. Since day one we have been planning this moment. However, in the last 3 years I've had 2 MCs and since then I have lost hope. These two MCs were the most uneasy experiences I had because it was just like having a baby but it never became a reality. My husband has lately been convincing me to get an appointment with a renowned doctor. However, I don't know why but I think there is some permanent damage to me and no cure can modify it. I feel totally broken. I know my Husband desperately wants a baby but this time I don't want to rush things. Please help. What should I do?

posted 6 years 5 months ago
Hey Samantha!
I'm sorry for your loss. There is nothing in the world I can say to empathize you. Because you alone know what you're going through. People have their own unique responses to grief. But there is one thing I wanna say here. Take as much time as you want but in the end don't let it ruin you. Your husband seems a reasonable guy. I'm sure if you talk to him he'll understand that you're not ready yet. He should understand.
Keep trying to struggle towards positivity. Best wishes for you!

posted 6 years 5 months ago
Hello there Samantha. I am so sorry for your losses. It must have been very hard for you to go through these difficult times and it is sad that you are still stuck over there. Having an MC is the worst thing that can happen to a woman. It affects the woman mentally and physically on so many levels. I totally get why you have not been able to get over the fact that you had 2 MCs. I have seen stupid enough people who keep on trying after several MCs. I would really like to give this kind of people some classes about self-love and taking care of one's body. I would never really get to know why people find it so easy to damage themselves so badly physically. Try to tell your husband that you really respect his wishes but you have been the one who has gone through the MC both physically and mentally and you are not quite ready for another try now. Tell him how bad it makes you feel to even think about losing another child again. Tell him that you would try again for sure but when you are mentally ready for it. I am sure that your DH will get you and understand everything because he loves you. Sometimes we have to remind people how we feel.

posted 6 years 5 months ago
ohh FreidaPilche I am really sorry to hear your story. Your husband cares you and doesn’t want to leave you. even he does not want to disappoint you that’s why he is recommending you to go to the doctor. You are lucky otherwise many women don’t get their husband support. Even they had to go through single parenting. Believe me, there are some women on this forum who are more desperate than you. I know every woman is. But try to think about those who are making effort for many years but still they don’t get success. Don’t lose hope. don’t be panic regarding this matter. It’s not your self-created issue. Keep calm and think before your jumping. Try to involve yourself in other activities like asking a question regarding your health and pregnancy issues. I know these are the harder moments of some one’s life. It’s very easy to say in words. The person who makes experience knows better. My suggestion to you has an appointment with your doctor. Try to analyze things. You will definitely find some solution. As if you are being declared as infertile then surrogacy is the option that you can adopt. That’s why I am saying it's not a point where you commit to suicide. You just need to explore things.

posted 6 years 5 months ago
Hey Samantha! I'm really sorry for your MCS. Trying to have a baby and then losing it is probably the worst feeling ever. Family is the most important thing today. It's probably the dream of every woman. Everyone desires for it. Having children is the ultimate goal of every couple. I know it must be a very hard time for you. After going through such pain, most of the women lose hope. They just start thinking that everything has ended. But still there are several medical processes that give the chance of having children, without any pain or feeling of loss. Yes that's right. Surrogacy is one of them. In my opinion, it's probably the best way of having children for those who can't. Well, talking about some success stories, I myself had experienced this. 9/10 surrogacy procedures are usually successful. So there's nothing to worry about only if you choose a good clinic for this. After suffering for two years of disappointment, I was so fed up by everything. I didn't want to try anymore so I chose a clinic in Ukraine. Clinics in Ukraine not only serve the best surrogacy programs but also find surrogates for you. The clinic I chose was probably the best of all (in my opinion). It had a good hygiene. Moreover the staff and the doctors, everything was so good. I was satisfied too, after meeting the surrogate. The doctors first told me that there was a little risk of miscarriage in that case too, but everything was fine at the end. I'm happy with baby boy now. Plus the whole procedure is less expensive than other medical treatments which require 2-3 attempts. So I suggest you to go for it too. It will make you recover from your past. And soon you'll be having a family too. So best of luck for that!

posted 6 years 4 months ago
Hello dear! I'm so sorry for your situation. I think you should visit a doctor and see if your suspicions are true. Maybe there is nothing wrong with your health and you will be relieved to know that everything is fine with you. Even if you have some issues there are ways of treatment. I would advise you not to waste time because you can make the situation even worse. I know how hard it is when everyone around is getting pregnant. I'm in the same situation and unfortunately I don't know ways how to cope with it. Recently one of my best friends announced her third pregnancy and that almost broke me down. I know you're going through tough times. I hope you will get better and find a way out from your situation.

posted 6 years 4 months ago
Hi Samantha! I m really sorry for your loss. No pain or sorrow can even be compared to the pain of a miscarriage. Don't worry miscarriages happen sometime and mostly because of our own stupidity. I m glad to see that your husband is taking a lot of care of you. It's better to go a doctor. He will run some tests and you will know the real reason behind your miscarriage. Then it will be better for you to avoid such mistakes in future. But if nothing is working for you. Then it's better to stop wasting money here and go for assisted conception. Assisted conception is very common nowadays and yes there's nothing bad in it. Many people will tell you many bad things about it. But don't listen to them and follow your dream. Just stay strong. Much Love!

posted 6 years 4 months ago
Hey Samantha.I am sorry to hear about your miscarriages.I knew to get pregnant and after that, you are facing miscarriage it's really hard to manage and cope with all that.I am also facing this before my 2nd pregnancy.I am feeling so bad and depressed.I am totally near to finish myself.I had never experienced this situation in my life ever.So, much frustration after that.But time heals all your wounds.Nothing is Everlast.With the passage of time, everything going to be normal.I am losing lose hope.I am trying again to get success.I am nervous if it will the same situation again.what should I do, But thankfully, there is nothing like that.I am facing difficulties but at the end, I had to receive better from this.I had come to know there is must be happiness after sadness.So, hope for good and positive.

posted 6 years 4 months ago
My story is almost the same. I know how you feel and I'm so sorry you have to go through this nightmare. I had 6 miscarriages in last 8 years. Doctors don’t know the reason why I can’t carry a baby. Everyone around is getting pregnant except me. And everything I do is losing... I'm looking into surrogacy option. My family gives no support. This is hard because now I need it the most. We are lucky to have supportive husbands! It's very important to be on board with your love in our condition. My parents are probably just ignorant about surrogacy. I tried explaining the process to them, but they still don’t get it. There is nothing unnatural with surrogacy. It will be my baby, from my eggs and my DH sperm. The only thing which is not traditional is that a woman, who can carry a baby, will carry my child. Is this really wrong? I don't think so. For us surrogacy is our lifebuoy. I hope you’ll find the best way out!

posted 6 years 4 months ago
Hey there! I'm really sorry you had to go through all that. MC is indeed the worst experience a women can go through. It makes you feel like you lose a part of your soul. And to go through that experience twice, I can't imagine what you must be feeling. But I sure know that you sound like a very strong women. So, don't lose hope. Don't ever give up. If you think you should wait for sometime, wait. If you think something is wrong, get a consultation.You know there is always a solution to everything. All we have to do is look for it. So, start looking my friend. Hope to hear more from your side. Love and good wishes your way. Stay strong my dear.

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