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posted 2 weeks 3 days ago
Hi ladies!
I am new on this forum, and I was looking on the internet for a place where I can share my tribulation with onliners, have constructive discussions, criticism, and advice on TTC. I started TTC 4 years ago, but I am afraid that I am headed into the fifth year with no sign of conceiving. My story is a long one, but I will try to summarise it. I got impregnated by my boyfriend after he took advantage of me while drunk. We had gone to a party, and I think I took one too many. I am not sure whether he added some drugs to my drinks as I was informed later by one of his friends. However, what happened is that I found myself in his house and it was evident that he had slept with me. This is how I conceived. Three months later, I thought the pregnancy was illegitimate, and I sought to terminate it. Since the whole thing was secretive, I decided to terminate the pregnancy. It was done by one of the doctors in our town who I suspect was a quark, and didn't have much experience. He scarred my womb, and as I speak, I cannot carry a pregnancy to full term. I have been in and out of fertility clinics, but I have not gotten help. However, I have had several miscarriages, and my doctor has pointed out that I can only conceive if I undergo constructive surgery.

posted 1 week 5 days ago
Oh my God, Diana. I'm terribly sorry to hear that. My dear, I hope you aren't still with that boyfriend. He doesn't really seem like a decent guy. I know I am in no place to pass judgement. However, judging from what you said, he allegedly drugged you. You should have reported the incident. Let me know if you want any support or advice on the matter. Now, coming back to your current issue. Scarring in the womb can cause a lot of probems. Fortunately, it can be fixed. For this you will need to get more surgery done though. Make sure you visit a doctor who knows what they are doing. Once the scarring is removed, you might have a chance to conceive. If this idea does not appeal to you then you can go for surrogacy or adoption too. I hope this helps. Good luck!

posted 1 week 1 day ago
Hi Maggie674,
Thank you so much for your concern and response. In fact, I had kept this to myself until I talked to a friend who told me that keeping quiet will not help me. She encouraged me to look for a forum where I can share my tribulation with the rest of the people, and I would be surprised to learn that I am not the only person facing such a problem. She also told me that it is possible that I would get someone who will offer advice that will help me conceive and lead a happy life. Now back to the question whether I reported my boyfriend or not, the answer is that I did not. You see I was still so young and naïve to the extent that I believed it was my mistake to drink too much. I also thought that since I found myself in his house in the morning, no one would listen to my story and that it would be difficult to prove that I did not consent. As I had mentioned in my earlier post, I am considering going for corrective surgery. However, I am a little bit scared because I talked to some expert last month and he told me that there is no guarantee that I will come out successful. Nevertheless, it is better I try than to waste my time and die childless. What is your opinion on this?

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