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adneyadney
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hello people, we all have heard of a famous quote that “A family that prays together stays together”. It is not necessary that togetherness make a perfect family. However, the family, which has the perfect togetherness bond, is the perfect family I must say. I need that kind of bond but I cannot have. I feel lonely. If I have had children, I was busy with my children. I was fulfilling my responsibilities of taking care of my children. I was busy in the upbringing of my children. However, I cannot do anything because I do not have children. My husband used to say that he is happy and he does not want any children. He is aware of my disease that is why he does not want to get my life on risk. However, I feel that at any stage of life, he will be very uncomfortable with not having children. He will marry another healthy woman to have a child. These are the thoughts that come in my mind and made me feel fear. This fear makes me unhappy. I feel like I am getting away from my life.


susy123susy123
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
I am so sorry that you are feeling lonely. I know that you are thinking that you haven't got a reason to live a life without children. I believe your husband loves you. If he understand your problem don't be afraid. He will stay with you and deal with issue.

emmaspenceremmaspencer
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
i couldn't get agree anymore you are so right. Family where we complete each other with help care and love. No matter what problems we face in our life family is always there to support us in all ups and downs. Every girl dream to have husband and kids but it doesn't end well for every women. How i am able to understand so clearly because i can totally relate myself to it. urge to have baby start crumbling due to my infertility. Even though i was talking medications, exercises and therapy. But this stuff made me nostalgic for that maternal place where i can not reach. how unfortunate seems for women who is principally born to have kids, cant have. i suffered through immense amount of pain and depression. My husband supported me, he used to be awake all night to take care of me. i used to cry all day long. Not even one treatment responded. It made me very heart broken. But then my husband encouraged me to consider other options. still hope for something good to happen.

Jasmine11Jasmine11
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hi Adney! Dear I hope you are doing well. Listen up! This is not the right way to deal with your problems in life. Everyone has to face many different problems. I know that it is very hard for you but getting so much disappointing as if it is the end of everything is not a good thing. There are many other ways to be happy, to cherish yourself and to live a good life. Moreover, you are not alone in this dear. A lot of women are facing this problem. Actually I am also having the same problem. I can also not have my own children. The reason behind it is my fatal heart disease. It has been very difficult for me to deal with all this condition of mine. I could not believe that such a thing could happen to me. I also feel isolated but then the love of my husband makes me feel alive and fresh. I know that deep inside he is also upset but he does not show it to me so I don't get upset. I have always been his priority. He knows that my health is not good to have children and I can even lose my life for it. I am also very happy for you that your husband is with you. This is a very important thing for women like us. This is the part in our lives that we should feel lucky for. I hope you will get some life from these posts. This is a good platform to share your feelings. Stay strong and happy! Smile

Stacy11Stacy11
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
H! I Hello Adney! I recently went through your post and i am very sorry for the issues you are facing. This is an issue that is also with many other females in the world including me and we have to fight it together. I know that how much difficult it is for you to deal with all this. It is the most hurtful feeling for any female in this world. But what can one do in this situation. You need to be happy so that you can take care of your health. Honey, try to seek happiness from many other different ways. I have a heart disease that prevents me from having my own baby. How painful is it. I know the pain we have to go through because of this. I see families happy that are complete and there is a feeling from inside that why not me. We have to be patient and keep praying for all of the female who are facing such problems. I have been consulting different doctors but all have said that it is a fatal disease and I can even die if I get pregnant in the future. In all this situation my husband has been my strength. He has stood firmly with me in such a situation and has always made me happy. I hope things turn up for everyone. You also need to be strong and stay happy. Be with your partner so that he can take good care of you. I hope you will be feeling much better now, as I am because I know that I am not alone in this. The best thing to hold on with in such situations is hope. Lots of love! Smile

jana1jana1
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Dear Adney, I am so sorry about your trouble. It makes sad when someone is in condition like that. Don't be depressive. You are not guilty of your condition. Please try to stay calm and try find a way to deal with it.

snjeza1snjeza1
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
I emphatize with you. I believe that you feel a pain that no one can imagine. Try to think positive. If you talk to your doctor and visit a clinic for infertility I believe you will feel better. Believe that there is solution for you.

susy123susy123
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
What a sad story. Even more sad is that you feel that everything is over. Don't give up on life. It sometimes puts you on the edge. You must be calm and go on with your life. Try different methods to succeed in you wish to have a baby.

snjeza2snjeza2
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hi Adney! I want you to know that you are not guilty for your issue. Don't be down. There is always a light on the end of the tunel. Maybe you cannot see that now but it's there. Focus on your health, mental and physical.

adneyadney
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hello, Selena Jones, I am not saying that I don't have other family members or my husband. They have always been with me whenever I needed them. My husband cares for me a lot. But when you get married, the most awaiting thing is to start a family. I also want to see my children growing up. I want to make them learn to walk holding their tiny fingers. I want someone calling me "mother". I know when a baby is born, the mother has to stay awake all night long. She has to go through many sleepless nights. She has to be with the baby every time to feed him. She needs to be with the baby every time so that she can clean her diapers. I know being a mother is surely a hectic but a beautiful job. My husband is fond of babies. I feel bad about not being able to give him a baby. I wish I could become a mother ever.

snjeza1snjeza1
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
I understand you adney why you cannot talk to your family about that. I have been in that situation. It was easier to talk with strangers who are in similar situation. Someone who doesn't know how hard is to deal with infertility cannot understand you no metter how hard it try. You talk to them and they are supporting you but they cannot understand you completely.

jana1jana1
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
I agree with you Snjeza. That's why it's great for you Adney that you shared your issue with us. We are strangers but because similar pain we are close. When ever you need someone to talk to we are here. Don't keep the pain inside yourself.

adneyadney
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hi Jasmine, I know it is not the right way to deal with the problems. I know I should be courageous enough to deal with this issue. I need to overcome my emotions. But it is not under my control. I want to be normal like other people. I have also visited psychologist many times to relief my stress but all in vein. I hope you understand my feelings because you are going through the same difficulties as I am. My husband is so much loving and caring. He is always there whenever I needed him. Last year, my health got so much worst that I even had to stay in hospital for a week. My husband took off from his work during those days. He stayed with me so that he can cheer me up. My husband is truly a blessing. He never complains but I know how badly he wants to become a father. I know it bothers him but he never say a word.

Jasmine11Jasmine11
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hello Lily James. I am really dis hearted to know about your divorce due to the reason of not getting pregnant. It is very difficult to absorb that you cannot have a baby and is would have become much more difficult when your husband left you. You are right. I also feel that one day my husband will also get tired of me and leave me because I also cannot give him children. He also loves children a lot as I do. But I cannot give him the most precious gift of his life. I fell very shy facing him. He is also very caring and loving to me. I am totally fertile but I have a heart disease that does not allow me to become a mother. After our marriage I started to feel ill and could not carry out my normal routine. Then I had my checkup and came to know about this disease. I was really upset and started crying. I have tried many times to convince my husband but he says that my health is the first priority for him. Because the doctor told us that if I get pregnant with this disease I can lose my life and the baby also. I know he feels very upset about all this but does not shows it to me. I feel really isolated. But I have now decided to throw this depression out of me and be a strong women. I am not going to lose any hope and look for the cure of this heart disease. I have already made some appointment with the doctors so I can start with the best treatment as soon as possible. I am really glad to know that finally you have hope. I also hope that you find a solution to your problem. This is not the end of life. We need to look for the positive side. Thank you for sharing your experience and emotions. Take care.

Stacy11Stacy11
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hello Selina! I hope you are enjoying good health. I am really glad after reading your post that you have taken out some of your precious time to express your feelings and encourage women who have such problems. That’s a very good thing you’re doing. Giving hope to someone who thinks that it is the end of life is a very good deed. . I totally agree with you that one should always try their best to get a solution for a problem instead of getting upset and depressed. It is a great relief for me to see that people are here to listen to each other and I hope all the other women feel the same. I also have the same issue. Although I am fertile but I have a heart disease that does not allow me to be pregnant. In the early days when I was diagnosed with this disease I was really upset. It felt like everything has been tore apart and it is the end of my life. I kept on crying. It was a very depressing period for me to deal with. My husband is very loving and caring to me but I also have a fear that he might leave me one day because he has always wished to have our own children. Now, I have left all the depression and sadness behind. I am having a treatment for my heart disease and hoping that I might get cured from this disease. Your reply is very supportive. I hope all other women also find it so. Thank you so much. Take care.

Katy0Katy0
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hi everyone ,
Lilyjames it is so sad to hear about you . How mother nature has been playing with your feelings. Jesus !this pain is excruciating but we need to be strong. I have a healthy son with surrogacy . I am telling you , you won't regret it . My son is very playful and he is healthy aswell. Selena you are such a kind soul encouraging everybody around. Mary, you should go for it . I know this jittery feeling we have but it ends up on productive results. Atleast it worked for me really well and I am really happy . Hope you get lucky too.Smile

SelinaDylanSelinaDylan
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Yes I understand your concern Adney. But this is a scenario you cannot control. I have felt your pain. Being infertile for over a decade, I was absolutely shattered. But I regrouped myself for my husband and my family's sake. Your husband may be feeling the emptiness of a child. But he loves you so much. And seeing you like this will make him even sadder. So please try to be happy. There is much more to a woman than being a mother. Try to engage in other activities. Work each day out in succession. In time I am sure you will recover. And if nothing else, you can always opt for surrogacy. My prayers and well wishes are with you.

SelinaDylanSelinaDylan
posted 7 months 2 weeks ago
Hey Adney. I'd like to start off by saying don't think like that. Its normal. Your feelings, emotions are all understandable for a woman in your condition. Anyone would do all this. And you are not alone. We all are here for you. Your husband is a real gem. Try to stay normal and happy for his sake. You need his help to conceive now don't you? So don't cut yourself off from him. You need his support. But at the same time, you must support yourself. You must value and respect yourself. Stay happy my dear. All the best.

laura123laura123
posted 7 months 2 weeks ago
It's sad story. I hope it wont be a sad end. I wish you have a happy end. Wish you find your way to get out of this troubles. Don't give up. Don't lose hope. Try everything to succeed. It's hard when life hits you but get up and try again.

AshbrownAshbrown
posted 7 months 1 week ago
Hey Adney! At first I would like to compliment your husband who had thought about you before thinking about anything else. Well, he is right. If that is so then you are disgnosed of a disease of which there are 80% chances that it might transfer to your offspring. I am pretty sure you want a quality life. Talk to your husband. Convince him for a treatment of your choice. I chose surrogacy as the best option for me. There surely are some better options for you. Just in case you opt for surrogacy do make sure you to use donor eggs. My clinic let me choose my egg donor. I picked 5 out a 1000 donor's data base. The data base was with me for 2 weeks. The doctors then picked the one with best characteristics out of the 5 I picked.

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