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I am still trying to conceive

jessparkerjessparker
posted 1 year 2 months ago
Dear I am so sorry about the situation you are dealing with. I have no words but still I don't want to leave without replying. I must say you are an example of strong woman. But you know what honey this still isn't the end. You have various options to overcome this adversity. You can opt for Surrogacy. It has worked for many people. You deserve to be happy. Just don't take stress and start meditating on daily basis . Your life will take a positive turn. I wish all the best. xxx


kimmyjinkimmyjin
posted 1 year 2 months ago
I'm in my 13th cycle trying to conceive after my miscarriage, and I just started bleeding today, which is pretty depressing to know that another month has come and gone and nothing. Next month will mark a year since we started trying again. Looking back, I never would have imagined that I wouldn't become pregnant within the year. Every day I think to myself, "It was so easy before. It only took one month. Why can't I get pregnant again?" I'm doing everything I can--ovulation tests, basal body temperature, and having lots of sex at the right time.I have a good friend that was trying to have a baby at the same time as me. She just gave birth a couple weeks ago. I'm happy for her, of course, but it is so hard to not be pregnant or have any hope that it will happen to me anytime soon. Sometimes I get so scared that it will never happen for me. I started seeing an RE (reproductive endocrinologist) in April. My HSG came back normal which was a huge relief because I had been terribly worried about scarring. This month he put me on Femara/Letrozole which he said would give me a better ovulation and more follicles, even though I ovulate normally on my own. I had three mature follicles at ovulation, so I was hopeful that one would stick. I do feel better seeing an RE (reproductive endocrinologist) because I feel like someone is "on the case" each month actively trying to help. I know this is a very difficult thing for us all to go through. Hoping we all have good news soon!

joannesmithjoannesmith
posted 1 year 2 months ago
Hi, there dear. I want to tell you that I am really sorry for what you have faced. Actually, life is like this. We can't think what is coming up. We never have any review. I don't know what it is. I am really not sure about anything. Sometimes we just want to give up but suddenly we saw a light and quit giving up. That's our hope. I must tell you that dear please be happy. keep yourself calm Everything is going to be good for you my dear. Don't be worry about anything. Whatever is coming just face it. Please make sure everything is good. Take care allot of yourself, dear. Best of luck.

minaminaminamina
posted 1 year 1 month ago
Hello hun! I know exactly what you're talking about. For me baby showers are the worst. During the last eight years of our TTC obviously we had lots of them. All of my friends, relatives, colleagues - all of them have children. We were going at all baby showers during first two or three years. Then I've just got tired. This is emotionally exhausting. And for my husband this is just a meeting with friends. I can't say this is easy for him. Sometimes he can be really upset after such parties. But it's not the same as with me. For me baby shower it's a torture. Everyone is talking about children, about motherhood, about planning more children and so on. And what is left for me? I'm just standing there trying to hold back my tears. I'm listening but not hearing. The only thing which is in my head "I want to leave as soon as I can". The worst thing is when people start asking me about my kids and when I say I don't have any, the hardest thing begins. They start asking me WHY I don't have any kids and WHEN I will have one. Everything I want to do is run out of there and never come back to baby showers. My husband doesn't get it. He tells me "just put a smile on and be nice". As if it's easy to do. One of my friends recently announced her pregnancy with her third baby. I'm already thinking about upcoming baby shower. I have to go but I already know it will be a nightmare for me. Why this is so hard? I just want to have a child that's all.

jenna_lovejenna_love
posted 1 year 1 month ago
hey melisaadams,I am so sorry to hear about this.I know it is hard to cope up with all of this.The pain of not bearing a child is unimaginable for normal people.Having a child is a blessing.I am myself not able to enjoy it.But one must never lose hope.The technology has grown and has become so helpful.It is a shining ray of hope women like us.You must check the surrogacy procedure.It is very vast.The success rate is indeed very high.I have heard a lot of success stories.This will help you get out of your misery i am sure.I have a friend who has gone through it.She now has two daughters.So she has given me much confidence

ZaidiZaidi
posted 1 year 4 weeks ago
Hello dear. It is not good to think negative. Curbing the pessimism is the first successful step towards conception. You are married for just one year and this is not a very long time.After marriage, there are some physical changes that happen in our bodies. There is nothing to worry about. This is something happening in your case too. The body is also preparing for the new changes. It is a transitional period for all your body functions. Don't worry or think too much. If you are experiencing some unusual signs for a long time, it is better to consult your specialist.

KarenHawkinKarenHawkin
posted 1 year 3 weeks ago
Hi dear.I am much impressed your story.I knew after hard trying for years, we all feeling depressed and upset.Even that you want to leave everything and stop trying.Life is not always as per us demand.It's going change with the passage of time.I just believe in that nothing we can get without struggle and try.Every woman wants to become pregnant and get success till at the end.Nothing is Everlast.There is always some light and hope at the end of the tunneled.I am hoping that after going through IVF.I get the positive result about it.I and my husband always want to have the kid in the very early age of after marriage.But after trying for years.I found IVF process in the clinic.Where I fulfill my desires and get pregnant.I am so excited when I hold my baby in my arms.

KarenHawkinKarenHawkin
posted 1 year 3 weeks ago
Hi lady.Don't lose hope.Try to maintain your spirit level.You can do better and get success.Life is not always easy.Sometimes we can face hurdles and beat all the things with bravery.You can do just try again it with great thoughts.I hope it will possible and much positive for you.Good luck.

lina6765lina6765
posted 1 year 3 weeks ago
Thanks melisaadams for sharing your life experience with us. I am really sorry to hear about your situation but it also amazes me that you are still trying. I have heard stories related to infertility, sometimes it becomes harder for a woman to have a family of their own. For the sake of the family, they undergo different processes such as surrogacy. I had been in TTC for 1 and half year but out of nowhere, I got pregnant. I also lost hope in life just like you, but it is better to keep trying rather cursing own life. Hey just keep on TTC, I know it can get really hard but there are so many more options for you. It is good to see you that you didn't give up yet. There is still a chance for you to become a mother. If you need any clinic suggestions just let me know. All you have to do is keep trying but you must keep following things in mind. Try to keep your diet healthy. Remember to do yoga, it is very important to keep your body in shape. I wish you a good luck and God bless you. Keep us updated my dear.

ElizabethjonElizabethjon
posted 1 year 3 weeks ago
Hi there! I’m so sorry to hear about your struggle, but you are not alone! Many women struggle to get pregnant just like you! For many of them, the pressure of getting pregnant is overwhelming. When they find that they cannot get pregnant they often fall into a depression. Like many women, I am unable to get pregnant through the natural way. I have what is called endometriosis. A condition that lowers chances of pregnancy as years go by. I have struggled with grasping the concept and have found myself depressed more often than not. I will always keep trying to conceive in any way I can. I believe that if I don’t give up there is still always a chance to get pregnant. Please don’t lose hope. There are many many options. There are also more ways to have a child. Such as surrogacy and adopting. They can be just as rewarding as getting pregnant. Many women felt more complete and capable after adopting. It saves children also. Overall don’t give up!

StelllaStellla
posted 1 year 3 weeks ago
Hello dear! I'm really sorry you have to go through such pain. I know that this is really hard to be strong in such situation. I had 6 miscarriages and I completely understand the reason why you chose such method to stop feeling the pain. We have been trying to conceive for 8 years. These years were a nightmare for us. I am very lucky I have supportive husband. But his and mine parents make the situation worse. They can't stop asking when we will give them grandchildren. They can't stop blaming me in inability to have children. They can't stop turning my life into a nightmare. In such situation it is very hard not to give up and stop trying. I've changed so many doctors, so many hospitals. I've tried literally everything to get pregnant and the most important to save the pregnancy. Unfortunately nothing worked for me. We wasted so much money and nerves and got nothing in result. After the pain we went through I'm actually surprised that we still have tiny bit of hope. We are thinking about the surrogacy option. This is our last chance and we want to use it. Dear I wish you all the best! I hope you will find answers to your questions. I wish you to find an option which will help you to become a mother!

SammyGillSammyGill
posted 1 year 2 weeks ago
I am really very sad to know about your struggle. It shows that you have done all your efforts for your baby. I appreciate this. You are a brave person. Trust me there can be delays in life. It does not mean that you start being hopeless. I am sure you will be successful in your journey. Stay hopeful and try to be calm. My prayers are with you.

ezabelezabel
posted 11 months 2 weeks ago
Hey! Virtual hugs on your way dear! This is really tough life. It is never easy of having a life with no children’s. I have also been TTC for so long. I know how it feels about having an incomplete life. There is always an emptiness that you want to fill and you try every bit of it. But dear! There must be no option of putting off your struggle. I know it’s tough but still, there might be something you are missing in your struggle. The light that you may find at the end of the struggle. I also had two IVF failed but I never quite neither I want anyone to do so. Look for other alternatives like surrogacy or any other. Start consulting fertility clinics and get your hopes high again. Way to go.

alinaalina
posted 11 months 2 weeks ago
Alaaas… this world and the people… huff… it is so depressing. I can understand the feeling. When a woman used to hear that she is infertile. How the complications moving around the life. It gets harder to compete for the problem in these circumstances. Life gets harder and harder. you should not lose heart. And try again. I wis you good luck for your pregnancy naturally.

EmilykEmilyk
posted 11 months 2 weeks ago
Life before marriage and after getting married is definitely different. There is a lot of pressure to have babies immediately after the marriage. It overwhelms you and sometimes this becomes the reason for a delay in TTC. What did your doctor say? Why aren't you able to get pregnant? Is the issue with you? Have your husband had his tests done? It is important that both of you go through some tests. Now you mentioned having IVF. That is one wise decision. The success rate and popularity of this treatment are high. Have faith in your destiny. You are meant to have babies. You will get your baby soon. I am sure IVF will work out for you. It will be your fairytale ending. Even if it doesn't work out.You can still adopt or have a surrogate baby.

Alexendra54Alexendra54
posted 11 months 1 week ago
Hey Melisa!I feel really sorry for you that you cant conceive.Life can be really hard sometimes but we shouldn't lose hope or give up.We should face these difficulties with bravery.So don't lose hope.It's great that you are still trying to have a child.Children are the blessing of God.If IVF is not working for you.You should try for other options to have a child like surrogacy.Some people think that what will they tell their child about it.But it not to difficult to tell them about it.I wish that you'll consider my advice helpful.May God bless you with an amazing child.All my best wishes to you.Good Luck Wink

AmberAmber
posted 9 months 3 weeks ago
I know exactly how everyone here feels. I'm 32 years old and have been TTC for 4 years. I just got my period today and I don't feel very happy. So many girls I know got pregnant without trying or on the first try and I'm just frustrated. I pray every day. I asked my co-workers and family members to say a prayer for me. I get so frustrated sometimes. But then I also realize how lucky I am to have such wonderful husband. I had a talk with DH yesterday (who has been very supportive) and we both are being very hopeful. Yes we had failed ivf and treatments did not work. But we want to believe! We have to have hope for sake of our future baby! We're supposed to see the RE soon. We are planning to move to the next step. We are willing to do whatever it takes to have our baby, even if it means using egg of a donor, surr oga cy or adopting. Let’s keep going together to our dream! I think God will give us a chance to be moms when the time is ours. Sticky baby dust to all.

ValveeValvee
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Hi melisaadams ,
I have read through your story and even though it is almost similar to what I am going through, the difference in time makes your story a sad one. TTC for 4 years is such a long time. It requires a patient man to go that far. This is why I thank your partner for the patients. Now you have mentioned that you have been on drugs. For the purpose of learning could you kindly tell me the drugs you have been using? I am also glad that you are considering IVF. I did some research on the same and learned that it is the latest technology that is helping ladies conceive. Ladies who cannot conceive on their own because of one reason or another have had to resort to IVF. The latest research in this field shows that a couple has more chances of conceiving if they resort to this option. It does not matter how long one has struggled with infertility. In fact, I learned that the method can be relied on even if you do not know the cause of infertility. That it has been used to help women conceive regardless of the cause of infertility. This is indeed encouraging and makes those of us who are afflicted with this monster not to worry. It has made me remain positive that I will one day a happy mother. My dear keep us posted on the latest development in your IVF journey.

CarliCarli
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
I am 45 and just had my 3rd IVF cycle. Everything is going GREAT! Had 5 eggs at retrieval, 4 matured, 3 fertilized. My Dr. was very excited by my egg quality. His office is still in amazement that a woman 45 could produce such top quality eggs. Pregnancy test to be done in 2 days. I’m so nervous. But feel in my heart this will be a success. Previous cycles failed and that was hard. Still can’t let it go. I put all my hope and belief in this cycle. Really need preg test to be positive. So tired from disappointments. Hun wish you good luck!

CarliCarli
posted 7 months 3 weeks ago
Our Preg test was negative. Very upset. Can’t believe it’s happening again. Really thought this one will be success. Don’t understand why it failed if I have so great eggs. Seems like everyone around get pregnant so easily. Why it can’t be me? But I'm not giving up that easy. I do believe we are meant to be parents. On to the next try. Don't know what that will be... Most likely IVF with donor eggs. Seems nice option in our situation. We'll let our RE make some suggestions then go from there.

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