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I am still trying to conceive

posted 4 years 4 months ago
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I had a great life before my marriage. I was like normal people and I was enjoying the everything that came in my way. I would like to change the things which give my days back.
I want to share my experience here. It’s been a 4 year to my marriage. My husband and I started out getting pregnant at the first year of the marriage but everything turned around when we realize that I cannot have a baby.
From that day I have tried many things some of them are femera, gonal f ieu and finally we reached at to the IVf. We started losing our hope. It’s been a three year to my marriage but everything is going to fail. I would like to tell people that it is not going too easy when everything is against you. I only know the things which are matter for me.
I have changed the approach to infertility. I want to get a baby and I really want to feel the way I am feeling from last three years. Have you ever faced the situation when you want to give up but you don’t do?
I am in this situation that I wish that nobody face in their life. There are several drugs that I took to get out of my depression but even though I failed and I really want to change the way people think of it. When you don’t pregnant on your first month it means your evaluation process is going right. I feel everything will be alright again.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
I am emphatize with you. Good to hear that you didn't lose hope. Don't give up. You will find solution. I am sure you wont let it go till you did. A God be with you.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
You cannot go back in time and return the days when you enjoyed your life. It's normal that you lived your life like that. It has nothing to do with your problems today. Don't think that you did something and cause your problem. It just happened. Stay calm and try again, and again.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
Be brave. I like the last sentence of your post. I am sure you haven't lose hope. And you mustn't. When there is a hope it's easier to wake up in the morning and face the world. It's not easy. It's never easy to face the infertility. Wish you well and wish you suceed.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
I pray for you. Pray for some courage and lot of strenght to face the infertility. I believe in you. You go through many problems. Don't let them to defeat you. Keep your head up high. And do your best to deal with issue. Send you all my love and good thoughts.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
Hello Melisa, it feels really bad to know about your situation and I hope you will be able to get happiness in your life. It is always a good thing to share your problems and experiences with others so that you can get any good advice. Such forums are good platform where you can share your problems and can good advice with other members. I can understand your situation because I also faced such a hard time in my life. Infertility is very common problem these days and many couples are going through such sad situation in life. I know that it is a dream of every lady to get pregnant and you also want to get such happiness in life. I will suggest not to lose hope and happiness due to it because the light is always there in your life. It is very common to feel the problems of stress, anxiety and depression due to this situation in your life. You should not take any kind of drugs to get out of depression and stress because it will only increase your problem. It is very important to face such issues in a proper way. When I was facing the problem of infertility, I also faced situation of depression and stress. I got Good help with regular yoga and meditation. It is always important to stay positive and hopeful towards life. I got good treatment solution in a certified clinic in Ukraine. In this country, you can easily find many certified and reliable infertility clinics. The treatment solutions like IVF, surrogacy and adoption are always there to find help and happiness in life. My blessings are with you, my dear.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
Hello honey! I'm so sorry to hear about your fertility struggles. I know how hard it is for you. I'm sorry you have to go through such thing. My husband and I were TTC for 9 years. I've got pregnant but because of my health condition(glomerulonephritis) I couldn't carry the whole pregnancy and give birth. There is nothing I can do to cure my kidneys to the point when I can carry my baby and have a healthy delivery. During these 9 years there were so many times when I wanted to give up. I even visited specialists who could help me to cope with the situation. Well it helped a bit, but after my loss I was so depressed I wanted to quit trying and live childless life. But I just can't imagine my life without children. I know exactly what you're talking about. Long TTC, my disease and infertility change me completely. Now I'm a different person then I was before. To be honest I don't like a person I became. I used to be very positive, funny. I loved life and I was always trying to find good side in everything. Now I am sad, upset, depressed, stressed and disappointed. I can't even say I live my life. I exist and wait for miracle to come into my life. I think "when I will have a child everything will change" or "I will be happy when I become mother”. Some people tell "find a distraction" or "enjoy every minute, everything is going like it's supposed to be" or "don't concentrate your whole life on infertility and then you will definitely get what you want". I don't think it works that way. At least for me it never worked. I should say now I feel a little bit better. The reason of it is that we found option which may help us to become parents. The idea of surrogacy came to our minds not so long ago. I feel much better knowing that there is a chance for us to have a baby. I'm only at the beginning of my journey. Actually it didn't even start yet. I do my best to find all information we will need in our journey. Did you think about options you can have in your situation? Maybe it's better to have a consultation with your doctor. He will probably advise you something or at least tell you what is the exact reason of your infertility. You will know if you should continue trying for example ivf with your own eggs or maybe you should try donor eggs. Moreover there are still surrogacy and adoption left. I hope you will find the best option which will suit your situation. I wish you best of luck!

posted 4 years 3 months ago
I am so sorry for this difficult situation in your life. I want to pray God to provide sufficient positive energy in your body to face this difficult situation. I am here for you to provide sufficient information to clear your doubts regarding miscarriage problem and conceiving effectively to enjoy a baby gift in your life that fulfill your whole life with happiness that dream of every woman to become perfect mother in life. I also face same situation like you in my life just 2 year ago. Now I am happy and healthy enjoying my marriage life with baby gift. It is your turn to enjoy your life to avoid miscarriage possibility with healthy baby gift. We try many effective methods to avoid miscarriage problem but not succeed. We consult with the popular gynecologist of Ukraine to get permanent solution of miscarriage problem in medical way.
I can understand your physical and mental stage at this time. It is very important to handle this stressful situation with powerful yoga and meditation to make perfect balance in your marriage life. You can easily overcome miscarriage problem to understand your body signal very well. This is a medical certified fact that body hormone imbalance create miscarriage problem. You should choose safe and secure sex during pregnancy to avoid miscarriage possibility. It is very important to start your planning with morning walk and easy exercise that provide proper blood supply to all reproduction system working that is beneficial for you in many ways. You should give preference to proper balanced diet that provides sufficient nutrition to maintain your body and mind in perfect shape to create win-win situation to overcome this miscarriage horrible demon situation in your next pregnancy.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
You have got a lots of good advices on this forum. It's good that you shared your problem. Think calm what should you do. One of this advices should bring you the soltion. Be persistant what ever you decide.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
You are not alone hun! I also had hard times when sadness comes to my life and everything I want to do is to stop. I had 3 MCs on early terms. I was broken. I felt like everything was in vain. I thought that I was cursed and I don't deserve to become a mother. I can't hold back my tears when I remember that horrible period of my life. I was stressed and depressed. I wanted to give up and not once. Thanks to my husband and his support we went through this. We decided to turn to surrogacy. Actually our doctor recommended us to do so. Now we are waiting for our baby to be born. I know you want to have a baby now. You don't want to wait and go through all this shit. We've been waiting for this moment for 8 years. I wish you to be strong and patient! I wish you to have successful TTC. Don't you ever give up!

posted 4 years 3 months ago
Yes, there is a lot of great advices. Maybe I would try some of them if I wont succeed for some time. This gave me hope that there is solution if it's not going naturaly. I wish that you are now full of hope. Hope is a great initiator.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
It's true that we are never alone. What ever we are going through ther is someone somewhere who is feeling the same. That's why is good to share your pain to forum like this one. Together we will defeat any issue. Good luck my dear.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
We are like one big family. Support each other. Not only those who are here for long. We are welcoming new ladies. If you tell your problem to someone it's easier to carry that problems on shoulders.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
Have faith my dear. I will pray for you. Don't let that the problem controls you way of life. Listen to those advices. They are coming from ladies which been suffered a lot. The good thing about this is that they defeted infertility. You can also defeat it. You must be persistant.

posted 4 years 3 months ago
Hello Melisaadams, please do not lose hope. Do not stress yourself. Stressing yourself will not help you to find out the solution. I have been through a lot. I was diagnosed with heart valve disease after my marriage. I discussed my problem over here. Many women suggested me about surrogacy. I have read many positive views about surrogacy. I would recommend you to go for it.

posted 4 years 2 months ago
Hello, dear Melisa. Your situation is awful. But you should know that a lot of women go through miscarriages nowadays. You are not alone. I also lost my baby boy when I was 6 months pregnant. I have no words to explain how frustrated I was. It was the situation when I was ready to give up. I was trying to stay strong as long as possible. My husband took me to the seaside. We were walking and having fun together. My life was getting better. I was visiting a psychologist. I desperately wanted to forget this situation. It was so hard. But my husband helped me. I appreciate him for his love and support.
In 2 years we decided that we were ready to try again. We spent several years TTC but we didn’t succeed, you know. We visited a lot of fertility specialists. They all were saying that everything looked fine. So called unexplained infertility is very popular nowadays. It made me even more frustrated. I couldn’t understand why it happened to me. I guess it could be a psychological problem. I was afraid of getting pregnant again. I wasn’t ready to loose one more baby. As for me, it was the main reason. I was scared.
A couple of weeks ago we started our surrogacy process. I understood that I am ready to become a mother. But I am still unable to give birth. That’s why we found the reproduction center and signed the contract. Now they are looking for the surrogate for us. They will give us a call soon. I’m just hoping for a positive result.

posted 4 years 1 month ago
I couldn't hold back my tears while I was reading your post. It seemed to me I was reading my own words. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm in the same situation. We've been TTC for 8 years and nothing. It seems like everyone around living happy life. Everyone around is getting pregnant over and over again, having kids, having life! And I'm just existing and waiting for a miracle to come into my life. I'm so tired. Time flies fast. I'm 33 and life just passes by. I was trying to find something else which will give me strength and help to be distracted. But I couldn't... I've noticed that with each year I become more and more isolated. No meetings with friends. All they talk about is their children and I'm just sitting there in silence. One of my best friends has had her 2nd baby (conceived straight away). All she does is moan about tiredness or feeling unwell. I would love nothing more than that. I feel so angry at times that it’s taken for granted. As much as I love her, I need to distance myself from her as it’s too hard to be around. No meetings with family on holidays. Whole family gathers together. They talk about their kids and their achievements. The hardest is when relatives who don't know much about our situation start to ask why we don't have kids. No social networks. When I see another pregnancy announcement or another baby pic all I want to do is to cry. Do they have no awareness of those that may not be able to conceive? For those desperately trying? I feel like people just don’t care. This is not a life I was dreaming about...

posted 4 years 1 week ago
It is frustrating. Just when everything seems to be making sense, your period comes a little early or a little late. It happens to everyone so don't get discouraged. First, you want to look back over your last few month and see how long you cycles last. Most of us will get a range, for example: 26-28 days or 28 to 30 days. If you haven't done it already, you might try doing an ovulation kit to confirm this timing. If things don't make sense, take the information to your physician to review.

posted 4 years 1 week ago
hi dear, how are you now. I am so sorry to read about your condition. I just want to say that its not like that many people don't have this problem. Most of the people are in this condition. Everyone feels devastated at the stage of this life. I am really worried about you. please take care of yourself. It's just about time. After sometime everything is going to be fine. I really want to tell you that please try surrogacy as well. If nothing left than always you can go for adoption. I hope this could help you.

posted 4 years 1 week ago
You are way too emotional. I’m sorry I don’t mean to offend you. I’m just saying that if you have seen it all, your words should sound courageous. Anyway, I’ll say that you are overthinking it. It just doesn’t seem right when you feel hopeless. Don’t go back into the past. Walk into the future. Future has it what you need, hon. Not the other way around. Also, I think you still have a shot. That’d be with surrogacy. In fact, if I were you, I’d have gone for surrogacy right away. Other alternatives do help, but surrogacy has a higher success rate. I hope you know what surrogacy is, right? If not, leave me a comment and I’ll be sure to details further info about it.

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