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Can't get pregnant

aylawoodruffaylawoodruff
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hi, Armani! I am sorry to hear that you are not been able to conceive. I would suggest you to try to convince your husband to get his tests done. You can ask some adults in the house, or even you can ask your doctors to guide. I hope your husband will cooperate with you and you both will be able to have your kids. But if there is some problem in your husband, there are plenty of options available to treat any kind of infertility. So don’t be disappointed just ask some adults around you to guide your husband.


jessparkerjessparker
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hello dear ! Its good that you shared your problem with us. We are here like a family. We will support you no matter what. Firstly, you need to sort things calmly with your husband. You need his support the most.He must know there are several treaments available for infertile couples. Make him explore the internet. Stay positive honey. Everything will work out for you. Take care of yourself.

Ursula05Ursula05
posted 1 year 10 months ago
In the event that a man is prepared to wind up noticeably a father, he will do everything conceivable to acknowledge it. Why that he wouldn't like to go to the healing facility. On the off chance that your specialist said that you are alright, appears that your significant other isn't alright. You should check it. Why are you tormenting your body with pointless medicines while your significant other is doing nothing? Endeavor to talk about this with him. This is imperative. Supposed male barrenness is getting increasingly prevalent. There's an extraordinary shot that you can't get pregnant due to your significant other. Consider the possibility that he is only unfit to end up plainly a father. Anyway, despite everything you have a few alternatives to get a child. Why not have any desire to receive? It's an extraordinary opportunity to spare some infant which was left by his mom. He won't be identified with you hereditarily however you will, in any case, turn into his folks. This is essential than hereditary qualities. This is only my conclusion.

EllashuckEllashuck
posted 1 year 10 months ago
hi! fertility is not just a problem for women, it is just as much an issue that affects men too. I think you are completely right in thinking that your husband should go to a doctor. I think that you should try to talk to him very matter of factly about this. if he really wants to have a baby as much as you do, hr should really consider the fact that that could be just a doctors appointment away. if he gets a checkup, then you guys will know exactly how much you guys have a chance of conceiving naturally. and if the probability is low, then there are so many ways for you guys to proceed. you guys can go for IVF, so whether you have a low egg count, or he has a low sperm count, they can make sure that those things get extracted, and an embryo is made. you can then carry that baby yourself, and have all the pregnancy stages that you want. I think it is really important for you to talk to your husband and makes sure that he knows how much this means to you, and how much you want to carry a baby. he should know that his actions can not only give you what you want but also give you both a beautiful baby! there are of course other options available too, there is surrogacy, and of course adoption too, and if the two of you cant have a baby, you can easily go for any of these. however, you guys should definitely try yourselves before that. talk to him, make him see reason!

Hila1996Hila1996
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hi Armani,
My dear, I think you are stressing yourself for no apparent reason. At 24 you should be enjoying life rather than thinking about kids. Perhaps you should allow the biology clock to tick and if by 30 you will not have succeeded in getting a child, you will go for IVF. I will explain the procedure shortly. Meanwhile, talk to your husband to go for tests so that the cause of infertility can be identified and treated if possible. Once the cause of infertility is identified, it is possible to choose an intervention method that can help solve the issue. Now about IVF, you will be required to choose a clinic that offers the service. You will be invited to the facility where tests will be done to ascertain whether you can benefit from IVF or not. You will also be tested for HIV and hepatitis. If the results are negative, you will be prescribed medication to help your endometrium to grow. This is important because it determines whether the embryo attaches itself to the uterine cavity or not. If you are going for IVF on a donor egg, you will be allowed to choose several possible donors and allow the doctor to choose the best for you. The donor will be stimulated and an egg retrieved. It will be fertilized in the lab and observed for some days. If it shows signs of developing, it will be transferred to the uterine cavity. After 14 days, tests will be carried out to confirm whether you are pregnant or not. If you are, you will be monitored for 12 weeks after which you will be allowed to carry the pregnancy like any other woman.

Hila1996Hila1996
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hi Armani
It felt bad to read your story yet you appeared helpless. However, it is critical that you remain strong and soldier on. Your husband must be coerced to visit a reproductive doctor. Only then will it be possible for you to seek appropriate medical intervention. If he goes for tests and it is determined that he is the source of infertility, you will be helped. If he doesn’t want, you still have an option, and you can still become a happy mother. You have told me that you have gone for the tests and everything seem to be ok with you. As a result, I think you can benefit from IUI and IVF. Studies show that some people cannot conceive through the regular intercourse. They need help with the latest reproduction techniques. So my dear talk to your husband about it, and if he buys the idea, you should not hesitate to introduce him to a reproductive clinic. The IVF technique requires that an egg is retrieved from you and fertilized in the lab. It will be observed for three days, and if it shows that it is growing, it will transfer to your uterine cavity. You will be monitored for three days and required to go for tests after the lapse of two weeks. If the embryo successfully attaches itself to the uterine cavity, you will be declared pregnant. You will then be required to go through the procedures that pregnant women go through until you deliver.

lina6765lina6765
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hello. I feel bad for you and I hope that everything gets right for you ASAP. Instead of being depressed, try to look for solutions to your problem. There are so many treatments that can help you out. You can go for IUI, which seems like the most suitable treatment according to me. If that does not work out then you can try IVF and even surrogacy too. Do not be sad, there are many like you and we all are here to help and support you.

lina6765lina6765
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hello. I am very sorry for whatever you going through. If your husband has not gotten himself check then he should consult a doctor. You might not be the one with the problem. In case of any kind of infertility, you can always get some treatment done to conceive a baby. You don't have to be this stressed at all. Stay hopeful and try to make your husband consult a doctor.

licelaelicelae
posted 1 year 10 months ago
Hello. I totally know how you are feeling and I think I can understand you more than anyone right now. I have also always dreamt of having a baby of my own and getting to carry it in my womb but this dream never came true for me. I feel like I d not have any other option left now other than adoption or surrogacy. I am so confused but I think the goal is to get a baby and I think that will be enough for me.

pearlpearl
posted 1 year 9 months ago
hello Eileende !!! dear you are saying the right thing. But try to consider that convincing your husband is the most difficult thing because I am also going through this phase. I know how much trouble or stamina you have to make. They think that they are right and we don’t have to go for doctors. Even some male feel shyness for going to doctors with their wives. I just don’t know what the phenomena behind it. But my suggestion to all woman is please tell each and everything to your husband so that they can trust you. in return they will stand by with you in future. Thanks!!!

Sarah55Sarah55
posted 1 year 9 months ago
Hi there friend. You are doing nothing wrong. It could happened to anyone. We can't do anything about it. This is part of our life. May you get well soon. this is the case of some complications. You and your husband have some complications conceiving a child. Don't worry you can always go for some other methods as well. I know you desperately want your own child and I wish you get it soon. I am just saying you can also try IVF treatments and well. All ways you can get your baby. So don't worry there is a hope. Just try to take care allot.

AnnieMomAnnieMom
posted 1 year 9 months ago
Hey! I would advise you to convince your husband to just try donating his sperm once. But if he is adamant on not going then there are other options. you can choose a sperm from a sperm bank. That sperm would be inseminated into your egg artificially. Thus resulting in you getting pregnant. My husband was scared to go to the doctor too. However after some persuasion we went together and the doctor helped us alot. Its best for you to have a heart to heart with your partner. You are married so this matter should be discussed openly. However if he still refuses, you both could collectively choose the best possible sperm option. There are many different men who donate their sperms. You can read about them in detail and this procedure and make your decision. Talk to your husband about this all first and get his opinion. You never know, he might be willing to go for this too.

ZaidiZaidi
posted 1 year 8 months ago
Dear Armani,after reading through your heart touching story I feel as if you are riding a roller coaster. Life is challenging you. Your post appeared five months ago. I hope by this time you must have decided for your destiny. At the same time, I'm sure you must have convinced your husband to visit the doctors. Despite too much of awareness and exposure many people still think that the infertility is all because of the women. The male infertility is equally there. Armani dear in both the cases infertility should not be taken us something devastating. This is just a chapter in the life. Unlike the past when there was no solution to infertility today it is possible to enjoy parenthood if you have lost all hopes of natural conception. Procedures like IVF and surrogacy have become a ray of hope for many IPs. Armani you can be the lucky one to enjoy the benefits of either of these procedures. If you fear the expenses it is not a problem either. You can look for some clinic in East Europe as they are known for being economical.I hope you will have something great to share in the coming future.

dinadina
posted 1 year 8 months ago
Hey Dear,
Get up its not too bad to say like that. Try to discuss this with him try to convince him which is very important and you both need to talk over this and it has sole importance. Visiting some credible doctors and specialists will definitely help you out. I think surrogacy is the best solution these days where you can have a baby. I did the same 4 years ago i had the same problem. I went for many specialists appointments checkups and in the end there was last solution which was recommended for me and it was surrogacy, and i will suggest you for the same but further for your satisfaction i will say just research over again. Ukraine is having the best and cheaper platforms providing such services. Free of scams and reliable. You just do not be worry when you will get in this as process starts you will get a relief and satisfied certainly. So i would recommend to go for surrogacy and have blessing of being called a mother.Hugss

jenna_lovejenna_love
posted 1 year 8 months ago
Hello, I am really sorry for what you have been through Armani. It is a wish of every woman to have a family of their own. Just like you, all the woman have a desire to feel their baby in the womb. I faced a similar issue and everytime the results were same that I am okay but I found that my husband is infertile. So I had to go for IVF an now I have a complete family. Since you have mentioned that you have been to a doctor many times and all time they have the same report that you are okay. There might be a possibility that your husband is infertile. So first of all, you must convince your husband to see a doctor. Take care of yourself and God bless you. Let me know if you want more information.

SheryljollySheryljolly
posted 1 year 8 months ago
Hi there! Maybe you are infertile hon! You should get yourself checked. Visit your doctor asap. There are many other ways to conceive. So don't worry. Everything will be fine. Just stay strong and positive. Don't lose hope okay. Good Luck.

KenethJamesKenethJames
posted 1 year 8 months ago
Hi there. How are you doing? I hope everything is going great. I am really sorry to hear what you are going through. I don't think you should blame your self. If the doctor says everything is okay with you. It is your husband that has the problem. If he wants to have kids he will do anything for it. Maybe he is hiding or afraid to tell you about it. Have you tried talking to him? I Hope everything goes by okay. Good Luck.

nancynancy
posted 1 year 6 months ago
Really sad post it is. Feeling sad for you that you don’t have baby. I can feel you that how desperately you want that child. Have you consulted with the doctor? Have they took any test? Your husband should really go to doctor. He should be supportive. He is blaming you for all this. Once he will consult to doctor, doctor will suggest you what better should you do. There are other processes through which you can conceive. You can conceive through IVF. In this process, your eggs put out and fused them with husband’s sperm in the lab. After some days, 1 to 3 embryos put into woman’s body again. Due to which, the woman is able to conceive. So you should really try this procedure. It will really helps you. Wish you best of luck. May your dream comes true!

AmberAmber
posted 1 year 6 months ago
I'm sorry to hear about your problem. Believe me I'm very frustrated myself. My husband and I are both in our early 30's. We’ve been trying for about 4 years. I always thought that it'll only take me one month and I'll be good to go. But that was not the case. We had so many fertility treatments. We went through 3 failed ivf. But we are still at the same place from which we started. It also doesn't help when everyone around is having kids. Moreover family members keep asking you when you're having a baby. Try not to lose your faith in God. I think God works in mysterious ways and it'll happen when you least expect it. I woke up depressed this morning, but I don't want to let myself get to that level. I will keep trying and see what happens.

CarliCarli
posted 1 year 4 months ago
Sorry to hear about your situation. I feel the same way. Just went thru third IVF. Everything was great. I strongly believed this one will be success. My Dr. said 3 days after transfer they were still in amazement over the quality of my eggs. If everything was perfect why didn't it work???? Just don't understand. How can I continue to fail with such a good eggs? I don’t get it. Not giving up. Going to try again. Will find the funds somewhere. Our insurance doesn't cover any infertility tx. That also I think is unfair. It's not like we chose to have infertility problems. This’s not my fault I can’t get pregnant. Anyway, good luck to everyone.

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