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AlecorbAlecorb
posted 4 months 1 week ago
Hello, my husband and I been trying for around 6 months to have a baby. I prepared my body and we tried quite a lot in this last year. I really though I would be pregnant by this moment so I can help but think there is something wrong with me. Is hard to talk this with my husband as he is the sweetest guy you could ever imagine. Even when he was the most excited by the idea of having a baby he has been very patient with me. Everytime we see a failed test he just smiles at me and tell me “This things take time.”


Im really concerned about what is about to happen. I been using BBT every morning and to keep a check on my cycle and time intercourse with my husband. Until now all of that had been for naught and so I talked with my husband and told him we should try to see an specialist. He kept his calm demeanor and make the appointment while keep reassuring me all would be okay. But cant help but think the worse, I know he is being strong for me and I give god thanks for that but seeing him try so hard to make me feel better also makes me feel really guilty about it. Because I know that he must feel as concerned as me about this situation but he keeps it all inside to not worry me.
The appointment was a few days ago and we are now waiting for my results. Since the last few days I been unable to relax at all and I can only imagine the doctor giving us bad news. I ask to anyone who ever was in such a similar situation. Should I really be that worried? Are the chances of bad news really high or maybe Im been so stressed about this whole issue that I, myself, been making it harder for us to have a baby.


dazzyshahudazzyshahu
posted 1 month 3 weeks ago
I am so sorry for this painful situation in your life. I am feeling pity and pain from bottom of my heart due to this horrible problem in your life. I want to pray God to provide sufficient positive energy in this negative situation. The first and foremost thing, I want to suggest you to handle this difficult situation with positive attitude and positive impression that provide sufficient energy to boost your confidence and help you to overcome this horrible situation in your life. I am here for you to provide valuable information to overcome this difficult situation on behalf of my personal life experience that provides satisfaction in my life to help you. I am one of the lucky women who get healthy baby gift in my life to conceive natural.
There are 20% women who are facing problem in conceiving natural in this digital world with less physical activity. This is major responsible factor for creating hormone imbalance that leads to infertility at early stage. I am feeling happy to see that you are on the right path to achieve your target and learn from my past mistakes.
You should be very informative to understand your body hormone signal very well. It is very important to have regular period cycle that is directly connected to reproduction system for smooth working in genuine way. It is very important to have real bonding with your partner to understand each other physical needs and emotion variable to maintain proper balance in your marriage life to corporate each other to defeat this horrible problem. You should consume iron food that maintains high hemoglobin level in your blood to conceive naturally. I am waiting for your reply to hear good news soon that is dream of every woman to become perfect mother in life.

HilaWriterHilaWriter
posted 1 month 3 weeks ago
Hello @ Alecorb


I am so sorry about your case, but I am very hopeful that everything will soon be okay after your doctor reveals to you what could possibly be going on. I would advise you not to ever give hope on your efforts on trying to conceive. They will soon bear you the best results ever. The only mistake you were making is failing to contact your healthcare provider. But now that you contacted your doctor, believe it or not he will carry out tests on you and help you evaluate the cause of your condition.



By doing so, he will be able to prescribe the right medication for your condition. I believe your husband is a strong and noble man who won’t forsake you no matter the kind of news you receive from your healthcare provider. Therefore, you should gain confidence and be ready for any kind of news.



There are equal chances that your doctor will bring you bad or good news. You thus, should not be scared of the forthcoming day. Besides, if you think positive of it then you are most likely to get positive results. If you think negative about it you should expect nothing other than bad news.

TrinityTrinity
posted 1 month 3 weeks ago
Hi, Alecorb.
Thank you for highlighting to us about your journey towards pregnancy. You've only had TTC for six months; it is advisable you try for one year before becoming worried. The fact that you have been using BBT shows just how informed and serious you are, and believe you me, your efforts will soon bear fruit. However, there are some few things that you need to grasp fully; for example, you need to detect any hormonal changes in your body besides getting the basal temperature to know your ovulation is due. You also need to feed on the right nutrition, and this also applies to your hubby since men tend to think they are okay when they probably aren't, get a diet that will improve your ability to become pregnant. Above all, you need to avoid any negative thoughts and feelings as it will stress you, just focus on the present and don't delve into deep thoughts about the future, remain optimistic. Although you didn't tell us about your age, I think you are still young and have the potential of getting into motherhood soon. As you wait to meet the doctor, remain optimistic that the results will be encouraging, remember you are not alone, many women passed through such situations and ended up emerging victorious.

SaeternSaetern
posted 1 week 6 days ago
Hello dear. The uncertainty is the worst. Not knowing can make you think up of the worst possibilities. I hope your appointment goes well. Hopefully, everything will be fine. Despite that, I would urge you to remain calm. Your husband has the right attitude. Worrying excessively won’t help. Be prepared for bad news. That way you won’t be shocked. Remember that there are solutions available. No matter what the doctor says, don’t give up. Stay strong. Hope for the best. Good luck!

CordovaCordova
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hey there. I can understand your feelings. When you first try you hope to see results straight away. Despite that, remember this. It has only been 6 months. There is a chance everything is okay. Maybe it's just that your timing wasn’t right. Have you been tracking your cycle? That can really help. It is nice that you have decided to see a specialist. That will help single out the problem. That is if there is one. I sincerely hope there isn’t one though. Follow your husband’s lead. Stay calm. Don’t give up.

HesterHester
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hello. It sounds like you are still young. Don’t be so dejected already. You probably have a lot of time left. Your husband is right. These things can take time. Sometimes much longer than 6 months. It is good that you decided to see a specialist. That is a very mature thing to do. It shows that you are motivated to find a solution. That is the right mindset. I hope the meeting goes smoothly. Hopefully, everything will be okay. Keep us updated. Good luck!

JohnnieJohnnie
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hey honey. I understand your situation. Infertility can be a dreadful thought. Not knowing for sure is worst. You keep doubting yourself. I suggest you both get tested immediately. That way you will know if there is any cause for concern. Even if there is, don’t be disappointed. Stay calm and focused. Keep trying to find a solution. I too have had an experience with infertility. My solution was surrogacy. Just know that there are solutions available. Something will work out. Good luck!

SheliaShelia
posted 1 week 5 days ago
It's sad to hear about your deplorable condition. But you have been a TTC Mom for 6 months and that's not too long. Just stay positive. There is no need to feel guilty. As things are not in your hand. But, I must say that you are very lucky to have such a sweet husband. He is there to support you. You just have to be strong. And face the situation like a fighter. Consult a specialist. He will do some tests and then tell you what the problem is. Just talk to your husband and think of the options you have.

GloriaGloria
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hello Alecorb. You have to stop worrying so much. Right now you don’t even know if there is any problem. Why worry then? Wait until you have the results of the tests. Hopefully, everything will be okay. Spend this time to relax. Try not to think about the results or your situation. I know that is easier said than done but you must try. Your husband is right. These things can take time. You need to follow his lead. Stay calm. All this worrying won’t change anything. In fact, it can make matters worse.

ShelleyShelley
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hi Alicorn. I am happy to read about your husband. You have an amazing husband. He is really supportive and patient. I am very upset with you. I know it is hard to survive without babies. You need to be courageous like your husband. Just stay hopeful and positive like him. How did your appointment go? I hope things will be back on track soon. I am hopeful that the results of the test will be fine. Don’t think negatively, please. You will surely be getting good news. You are just stressing yourself and nothing else. You are not making it harder for you both to have a baby. It is not under your control. Please stop thinking like this.

ChristieChristie
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hello Alecorb. I can understand what actually you are feeling. However, you should not be losing hope so early. It has just been six months. Six months are very normal for TTC. I know you want to get pregnant now but there is long life to go. You need to be courageous and continue trying. It is not necessary that you are suffering from infertility. Sometimes, it takes time to get pregnant. I am happy to read about your husband. I think he is one fine man. You are blessed to have a husband like him. You need to stay courageous like him. Don’t think that it is your fault. It is a natural process. You don’t have any kind of control over it.

MaureenMaureen
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hey there. I understand what you are going through. May I inquire about your age? That can influence your chances. Despite that, it is important to stay calm. Worrying now won’t help anything. You can’t fix things just by worrying. Especially when you don’t even know if there is anything to worry about. Wait for the test results. Once you have them, then you will know for sure. Hopefully, there will be nothing to worry about. If God forbid, there is then you can figure out how to fix your situation. Either way, for now, put your worries aside. Keep us updated. Good luck!

MadelineMadeline
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hello dear. Don’t be so worried. 6 months isn’t that long. For many couples, it can take much longer. Are you charting your cycles? That can optimize your chances. It is a good idea to calm down. Your husband has the right attitude. Worrying makes no difference. Right now you don’t know what the problems are. If there even is one, that is. Wait for the test results. Stay calm in the meantime. Stress is highly harmful. It can significantly lower your chances of conceiving.

AtkinsAtkins
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hi dear. PCOS is curable. Maybe you haven't found the right solution yet. I know someone who had PCOS and managed to recover fully. However, she only had it for around a year. The difference in time might be causing a problem too. Despite that, if you want I could find out more about the treatment she went for.

KaitlinKaitlin
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hey Alecorb! I hope you are enjoying good health.6 months is not a big time span for not being able to conceive. Some women do not conceive so quickly because of different reasons. It does not mean that you are having any sort of problem with you. You need to relax. Things do take time and you need to be patient for that. Your husband understands you very well and that is why he also tells you that things take time. It’s a good thing that you have taken a few tests but it does not mean that you fell being hyper all the time and wait for the test results. You will get to know when the results are there. You just focus on your health. If still there is any problem. Don’t worry. You can have your children through surrogacy. I can share my own experience related to surrogacy but first, we need to wait for your test results. Till then take care!

LaverneLaverne
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hi sweetheart! You are thinking too much about your situation. Pregnancy is not a thing that you think about it and will happen to you. It takes a bit time and you need to try it many times. I think you are worrying too much about the last six months you have had intercourse with your husband and you are still not pregnant. So you are not thinking straight. There is no need to feel guilty about anything because nothing is wrong with you. The test will show if something is wrong with you. According to your situation, I don’t think there will be any bad news in the report. You just be happy and spend more and more quality time with your husband so he also does not feel worried about you. Still, if there is any bad news about your pregnancy, you do not need to take any stress. You have some other options as well. Like surrogacy. I also had surrogacy and I am having my own child now. Well, this is to be discussed afterward, if the tests reports are not good. Best of Luck!

EileendeEileende
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Oh dear! Why are you thinking so much about your condition? I have seen a lot of women who even take a year to get pregnant. It depends on when you ovulate properly and when your eggs are ready to meet with the sperm. It’s not like the way you are looking to it. You have no symptoms of any infertility issue or any health problem. SO it means you are okay. Rest of the things will be clarified by the tests reports. You are too much eager to have a baby. Just slow down a bit dear. Let things run their course. I have seen women who are infertile even from 6 six years but they still have children through surrogacy. So having your children is not a problem for anyone because now we have surrogacy. So take a chill pill or even go for a vacation. Ba-bye!

AntoinetteAntoinette
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hi hon,

Feeling bad for you after reading your story Sad

Your husband seems like a gentleman. You should always be thankful for him. My ex-husband was a jerk and after my MC, he left me. My husband now is more or less like your husband. He takes a good care of me. He also supports me with you know the female issues.

I have a tilted uterus and can't conceive now. We are thinking of going for surrogacy. I'm open to suggestions, please recommend us some good clinics. It needs not be in the US only, we can go abroad too if the package is affordable.

I wish you good all good luck, girls. I wish all TTC couples get the chance to enjoy their parenthood.

Please pray for our surrogacy process as well.

Peace Smile

JosefinaJosefina
posted 1 week 5 days ago
Hi there,

Don't worry too much about it. You have a supporting & loving partner. The other lady is right - you don't get these noblemen in today's times easily.

I know it's every couple's desire to have kids. I think that it's also important that we enjoy the husband-wife relationship too. Don't always be complaining.

I wish you good luck with your results. God forbid, but just in case something bad happens, please don't lose hope. You can still have a baby if you consider the different options that are available today.

Please post updates on what happened. I'd be more than happy to share some good suggestions from my personal experience.

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