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I never knew the cause of my infertility

posted 7 years 6 days ago
No one knew where the problem of infertility came from. Even the doctors could not understand. After several checkups, everyone considered me infertile. I always used the trial and error method of conception but none worked. After visiting several clinics, I was always diagnosed with the wrong cause. Every other doctor purported it was a fibroid tumour. But nothing of the sort was true. Visiting a gynaecologist and examining my uterus properly, it was established it had some defects. Notwithstanding the pain of having a false promise of siring a child, I actually gave up and lost hope with life. The condition could not be treatable. If it were, I would only be subjected to analysis and critical checkups to avert any pregnancy abnormality. When everyone found any other way, I decided to conceive and it worked normally. The growth of the child was very abnormal and I underwent a miscarriage. Surely enough I was so discouraged and opted to live without a kid. But my conscience was speaking to me not to opt for that. I decided to visit a clinician and was advised to undergo an IVF egg donation. I jumped out of my feet and was very terrified. I couldn’t master the courage to admit as my condition was later learnt it was a congenital defect. I am now living in tenterhooks what I should do next.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
Hi friend, I am here for you to provide valuable information to clear your doubts regarding infertility cause in easy and effective way. I am feeling happy to help you on behalf of my personal life experience. This is golden opportunity in my life to get full satisfaction to help you. Infertility is very common problem in this advanced digital world with less physical activity. I am one of the lucky woman who defeat my infertility problem in natural way. It is very horrible to remember that days of my life that are full of emptiness and sadness due to my infertility problem. You should be very informative to understand your body signal very well to overcome all type of pregnancy related problem at early stage. It is medical certified fact that stress and depression are responsible for infertility related problem. There are 20% women who are facing infertility problem all over the world. You should understand the importance of real bonding with your partner to maintain proper balance in your marriage life to provide satisfaction in each and every step of life.
It is very important to understand importance of regular period cycle that is directly connected to reproduction system. The irregular period is major responsible problem for infertility. You should maintain high hemoglobin level in your blood to conceive naturally. This is medical certified fact that the low hemoglobin level in your blood leads toward infertility in future. You should not compromise with your health at any cost. You have to pay more in future with less care about your health. The regular use of unhealthy diet create infertility problem to provide hormone imbalance in your body that is not easy to handle in natural way. You should give importance to healthy lifestyle to convert your imagination into reality.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
Hi, Mumy.
Sorry for all that befell you as you sought for causes and solutions to your inherent problem. It is worth noting that other women have gone through such an experience like yours. You have come to the right forum, which will provide you with information that will help you find life to be meaningful as you look forward to regaining your womanhood. I have many friends who had given up on ever getting children of their own and today they are now happy parents after being helped through IVF. Most women keep trying their luck by taking daily shots naturally and still fail to get heavy. IVF presents you an opportunity of having a baby and live your dream of becoming a mother. You need to carry out some research to determine where exactly you will get the services from, and most countries have fertility clinics. When you get to the clinic, you will get the procedure and costs involved in the whole process. Talk to your husband about it and seek some further expert advice before going to the clinic. You will find the process to be cheap for you, and it has many advantages.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
Hello OP! I'm so sorry about your failures. I know this is hard for you now. This is really hard not to give up at this point. My husband and I were TTC for almost 8 years. I had 3 MCs which were really heartbreaking. This was so hard to decide what to do next. I was so crushed I thought to give up and stop. I'm happy we decided to keep going. Though we are using services of surrogate mother I'm so glad we'll become parents very soon. I wish you all the best, dear! Just don't give up. Maybe you need small vacation without all these pregnancy stuff. Have some time together with your husband, have some rest without pushing yourself to the next step. And then you'll continue your way to parenting with fresh mind. Good luck, dear!

posted 6 years 9 months ago
My dear, I am so sorry about your condition. I know it's hard to know about your difficulties. It's good to know that you want to try some other ways. I know that you will find some good clinic. There you will learn that it's not everything lost. You still have good chances. Just don't give. The worst yo can do for yorself it's to give up.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
Don't let that this condition depressed you. You will need a lot of strenght. Patience too. Look deep inside yourself and find strenght to deal with the issue. Try to learn about good clinic. I believe if you visit a good clinic you will find good sollution. There are many ways. You have to talk to the doctors and learn what is the best for you.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
I believe that is difficult to face the possibilities that you wont have a child. I emphatize with you. It's hard to get through and deal with such issue. You have got some good advices. Try to go the clinic. You are not the first case like this. I believe there they will help you. Others are succeeded. Why shouldn't you? Try.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
I understand what you are feeling now. It's very important not to flump in a depression. No metter how hard it is you must go on. If you don't try everything you will regret it some day. There are many good clinics which are specialized to deal with infertility. I believe you will find good solution. The doctors in the clinic will help you, I am sure. Have faith. Wish you well.

posted 6 years 9 months ago
Oh, that's not nice. But there are many ways to have a baby these days. I wish you every success in your attempts.

posted 6 years 6 months ago
Hello dear! I'm also in a situation where only IVF can give me children. I will have to use donor eggs as well. The thing is I'm also scared. I was trying to battle PCOS and nothing worked for me. So now I'm asking myself "what if it also doesn't work?" If so it will break my heart. But previous replies are very truthful. You never know if you never try. As this option is suitable for us now I definitely should give it a try. I wish you all the best with your IVF! I really hope it will work for you!

posted 6 years 6 months ago
Sorry to hear your story. It is true that infertility is a complicated problem which requires competent and experienced doctors. Unfortunately, when you visit some clinics, and you may not receive the expected service especially when you are attended to by inexperienced doctors. And again, we need to understand that there are some types of infertility that have not been explained and so most doctors may not give you the right information. Back to the issue of a congenital disorder, it is possible that it may cause infertility. It all depends on the type of disorder you may be having. For instance, an ovulatory disorder which is a congenital problem is known to cause infertility in more than 30 % of women. Fortunately, most of the cases can be treated using drugs such as Repronex and Clomiphene. Tubal diseases could also cause infertility in women. The problem ranges from adhesions to complete blockage of the tube. Luckily, this problem can be overcome by surgery treatment. Over 30% of women who undergo surgery can recover and give birth. Tubal damage may be caused by infection –where viruses and bacteria transmitted sexually cause inflammation and scars and damages the tube. Also, scarring the fallopian tube may also make it difficult for a woman to conceive. Also, when the fallopian tube gets occluded and fluid collects in the tube may lead to infertility.
Note that there are other ailments and abdominal diseases such as colitis and appendicitis that makes the abdomen to get inflamed and lead to blockage and scarring. This too may make it difficult for a woman to conceive.

posted 6 years 6 months ago
There are numerous causes of infertility. But it doesn't mean there isn't any solution for this major issue. In this advanced medical era, You can not label your self as an infertile women. You just need to look in the right direction. There are various treatments to treat infertility. You must consult a fertility specialist. Only then you'll be able to understand what options you have. Many babies have been born through this IVF procedure. Just don't abandon your dream. Wish you all the best xx

posted 6 years 5 months ago
Hello there. Hope are you doing good. I read your story and It saddens me to know what you are going through. But I want you to know that you are not alone. This is the case for many women. Infact 1 out of 4 infertility cases cannot be diagnosed properly and the reasons remain unknown. But in my experience these are the ones usually ending up in miracles. I've heard of so many women not knowing whats wrong for years and then suddenly, bam! they are pregnant one day. So just stay hopeful honey. About your options, look for a good specialist. Somebody you feel comfortable with. The option of IVF seems the go to option in your case. Which i suppose your doctor has already suggested. Its nothing to be terrified of. Many babies are born through this treatment every year. It may sound a little complicated but it works. It has worked for so many people I know. And I assure you, you'll get through. If still this is not the option you're comfortable with. Then there are other ways as well. But just please don't give up. You really want this , so you have to struggle for it a bit. Dont sit back thinking it was a matter of fate. Look at all your options before its too late. I wish you the best!

posted 6 years 5 months ago
I am sorry dear. But at least at last you were told where the problem lies. I know quite number of people who are going through unexplained infertility. It hurts to know what you are suffering from cannot be solved. Like you don't even know what you are suffering from. But thanks to technology. These days there are many means in which one can deal with it. I think it could have been better if you went for IVF. Because if you keep on doubting yourself. Then perhaps you will remain like that forever. I am not saying that it is bad. There are people who made engagement with themselves taht they will not have children. But if according to you having children was something that you ever wished for. Then do not loose hopes. Keep on working for it. I believe one day you will find a solution. Just know you are not alone in this journey. There have been and still there are many people who have been in the same road. Just take hear dear. I wish you all the best.

posted 6 years 5 months ago
Hello. I think I know exactly what you are going through. I got married with the hopes of growing my family and getting to spend my life with little ones around me but it has been a decade since I got married and I have tried many many times to conceive but it has been no use every time. IVF is a normal thing for me now, went through it multiple times, does not seem that scary to me after all the heartbreaking experiences. It never went right, not even once. I think I am getting old, I fear that it might get too late. I fear to spend my old age lonely without any children of mine. The doctors never get to know the real problem of my infertility. I wish I was not this way, I wish everything worked out the normal way for me, I wish I get to know how motherhood feels like. The most heartbreaking part is not knowing the actual cause of my infertility. I am on the verge of a mental breakdown every day. I live far away from my family. I just want to be in contact with people who can really understand me, who are going through what I am going through. Reading your post felt like I have finally found someone who can understand what I am going through and what I have been going through all these years. Do go for IVF, i hope it works out fine for you.

posted 6 years 4 months ago
mumy it’s so sad to you. I read your post and it turned my eyes full of tears. I always feel pity for those women who don’t know the cause of their infertility. Alas.!!! They don’t know for which check-up they visit doctors. What should they say to doctors when everything is going to be true. I am also among them. I am having TTC for many years. When I become hopeless and feel discouraged when I leave it. but after some time I again get zeal to start again. But I have a solution for you. many women here suggesting me to go for surrogacy. Many clinics are offering their services. One of them suggests me Ukraine clinic while others suggest me south Africa. So my suggestion to you is if you want to have a kid having one of your genes then try to test it. success will be depending on your luck. They will find the best match for your surrogate mother. They will facilitate you as they can be. Regarding their residence facility, economy packages and leniency in appointments.

posted 6 years 3 months ago
Infertility is not just a word, it is something that ruins the lives of several people. Many couples are fighting their fate just because they are infertile. Although the word has become very common these days but still number of causes of infertility are unknown. The same is your case my dear. Usually the causes of infertility are presrnt either in the male or the female and in extreme cases both the genders are responsible for this. The most common causes of the infertility are any infection in the urinary tract or the reproductive system, weak eggs, inability to produce eggs, malfunctioning of ovaries and uterus infections. These causes are generally behind the infertility of the women. In men the causes include the inability of sperms to reach the eggs, less sperm count, ejaculation problems, and some prolonged disease. As you have mentioned yourself that your case is complicated because of the proper diagnosis, i would suggest you go for another round of tests. Sometimes there are certain elements that don't appear in the first or second test. Your doctor might give some prescribed medications to find out some hidden reasons behind the infertility curse in your life. There is nothfighting to get worried about. It is a serious problem, but medical science has really made it possible to fight all kinds of problems. There must be some solution for your problems. If you lose your hope you lose everything. I wish you all the best for a happy life.

posted 6 years 3 months ago
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing well. I am really sorry to hear about your issues. I know this must be really hard. To hear about your MC it breaks my heart. I know because I had one too. It was really devastating. I wanted everything to end. I know it you must feel the same. However, don't repeat my mistake. You should consider going for surrogacy. It's a great choice. I am sure it will work, I hope it does. Good luck. Take care.

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