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I am a parent with a lot of guilt

posted 1 year 7 months ago
My name is Tracy and I am a new member in this forum. I will highly appreciate sharing more with you. Guilt had started gnawing on me. This time my kid was in high school grade 12 when he started focusing on doing his final exams. He started performing dismally and never adhered to the teacher’s instructions. One day I recalled my character in grade 12 was still the same as his. I remember vividly the courage and excitement that was boiling in me as I misled other students to indiscipline. In the wake of the final exams, my kid’s performance was now at the rock bottom. Stressed about his life, I sought the services of prominent counsellors. None seemed to work and the behaviors started dwindling more and more. I got hypertension as I remembered vividly this is the chip off the old block. Guilt was eating me to an extent of avoiding meeting the teachers face to face. My child did the exam and I never had the excitement of him finishing school. The results came out and still, I was in a total loss of my senses. Surprisingly enough, he got the same grade that I scored. A dismal grade that can’t even get admission to a college was what that landed on my table. It was an evening of shame, guilt and conscience-stricken times.

posted 1 year 7 months ago
Hi Tracy. I am so much motivated by your confession. The behavior of a child is merely dependent on what he or she observes from the surrounding. The problem is not yourself but from those peers they engage with. Again child behavior is not genetic so its not spread through generations. The best approach is to sit with your child, talk with him or her and at this point pamper them with what they like best and they will open up everything to you. Don't shy away as this is your child. I know this will help you too. I have also learned something from you and i will be very glad to always have an insight from you and from everyone in this forum.

posted 1 year 6 months ago
I feel that you should take it easy on yourself if you really want to help your son. Parenting is not easy but you must not allow the repeat of history so stop you from being a wonderful caring parent

posted 1 year 5 months ago
Hello Tracy , first of all welcome to the forum. its really great about your child.

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