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janedawsjanedaws
posted 1 year 2 months ago
Hello ya’ll!
I am Amanda. And here to share with you the chronicles of my IVF journey. Hope this won’t be that boring as I am not a writer by any means and the sole purpose of my posts is that it will help to realize everything I am going through and to declutter my thoughts I guess. As it is a very time and money consuming thing especially when you are one of those who count more on the second impression of the clinic but not on the reputation or something. Although my clinic is reputable and all of that, I think that it is more important to be sure that you can afford the treatment rather than put yourself in debt for the sake of getting pregnant in the clinic near you. It makes me really angry when I think that I actually am not that wealthy as I would want to be and that I am obliged to do more work than it’d be necessary in a case of my wealth and stuff.
Ok this is me talking about things that do not matter.
I am just trying to comfort myself because I have noticed myself worrying a lot about the clinic of my choice and whether it was a right decision. I am really worried about the positive result as it is not the first time I am heading abroad for ivf.
Anyways.
Ivf egg donation 3 rd round begins.


catsychcatsych
posted 1 year 2 months ago
Hello and welcome Smile
Good luck with you journey! Hope to see more updates! Sorry for your previous experience! Fingers crossed this is your last and the most successful attempt out of them all!
Wishing you the best of luck!
Xoxo

janedawsjanedaws
posted 1 year 2 months ago
Thank you a lot, yeah, I actually had a pretty much an unpleasant experience in Spain before, had to refuse continuing on after they collected 3 egg cells from their donors each time or at least they just told me that which was still stupid and impolite. I have paid also 3 times more the amount than I was expecting to.

catsychcatsych
posted 1 year 2 months ago

janedaws said:
Thank you a lot, yeah, I actually had a pretty much an unpleasant experience in Spain before, had to refuse continuing on after they collected 3 egg cells from their donors each time or at least they just told me that which was still stupid and impolite. I have paid also 3 times more the amount than I was expecting to.
Sorry to hear that but none of us is protected from anything of that sort, but we still can hope that everything will be fine! And I hope that with all of that experience you will be better at deciding and finding what’s best for you. now as you have the example of a bad clinic you can compare your new one to the old one and make some conclusions.
But it is better to have some guarantees.

sherrymesherryme
posted 1 year 2 months ago
Hello janedaw! Sorry you got those unlucky attempts.. and spent quite a sum of money for that.. and all in vain. Hope you have more faith in the clinic you've started now. As far as I got it you had both previous attempts in Spain, right? And where do you go now? I suppose the prices there might be quite reasonable if you decided on that even taking into account that you would have sufficient fllight expenses. BTW, how long does it take to get an egg donor? Sorry for that many questions.. you may answer them if you feel not up to.. Anyway wish you all the best and good luck with your upcoming ivf round. Keep us posted

Lily09Lily09
posted 9 months 2 weeks ago
I've heard that it may take a long time to have a success with IVF. What is your doctor saying? What are your chances? I know that it is pretty pricy. So, is there a need to waste your money? May be you should go for surrogacy? I've never tried the IVF, that's why so many questions. When I found out that I was unable to give birth, I knew that I would adopt. That's what I did. But now we are thinking of one more baby. And, I guess, we will go for the surrogacy. I'm looking for a medical center at the moment. I'm also ready to go abroad, you know. We are not rich at all. That's why we are looking for some cheaper options.

ragegorruragegorru
posted 9 months 2 weeks ago
Hey ladies. The best things are life don't come cheap. Having said that, I will admit that even a huge blessing like a child should not clear out the bank. Maybe, the doctor you are going to is charging too much. I have experience with surrogacy. That wasn't too expensive. In fact, the favorable packages allowed us to have a child with only a few month's savings.

ypesehafiypesehafi
posted 9 months 2 weeks ago
Hello dear! First of Good luck for your journey! Well, I'd really want to sell you hope because I am always positive with stuff like that. During my infertility I never lost hope it was difficult for me. But, yeah! I had to adjust it all. So, yes! I still hope your this attempt will be successful.. Please spare us with the good news soon Smile

SaeternSaetern
posted 9 months 1 week ago
Hey Jane Daws. Welcome to this forum. I hope sharing your feelings here helped. Talking about your problems really is therapeutic. You are so right. Many people get so caught up in their race against infertility. They often find out that they are out of resources by then it is too late. It is important to take your financial condition into account. This will save you a lot of disappointment and embarrassment later on. I hope this time you are more successful. IVF sounds like a great idea. I hope you manage to conceive this time. Also, that it does not blow your budget. Good luck!

JohnnieJohnnie
posted 9 months 1 week ago
Hi there. I sure know what you mean. My husband and I wanted a child. The problem was that after my hysterectomy it was almost impossible. We then found out about surrogacy. We checked out how much the local clinics were charging. It was way out of our league! Luckily we found out that there were better options abroad. We were curious but also nervous. We found out about one clinic which was affordable. My husband got a loan from an associate. There was no looking back after that. Things worked out for us. Now we have a baby. We also managed to pay off the loan.

SheliaShelia
posted 9 months 1 week ago
Hey Amanda, Hope you are doing well? You did the right thing to pen out your worries as sometimes it's necessary to vent it out to keep you in a correct state of mind. You are right affordability is a factor which one should consider before opting for any treatment. Which country are you from and where are you getting it done from? Why do your doctors say?. My prayers are with you. Face your hurdles with strong determination and don't lose hope. May your path gets easier.

ChristieChristie
posted 9 months 1 week ago
Hi Jane Daws, discussing your issues truly is remedial. Everyone who plans to go for any fertility treatment consider his or her budget too. Not everybody can afford expensive treatments and procedures. However, the government should be providing debts and loans for the people who cannot afford infertility treatments. The infertility procedure that is surrogacy is one with high success rate. It is also becoming popular. However, the problem is that it is very expensive in the USA. It is not at all pocket-friendly in the United States. Surrogacy is inexpensive procedures in many countries. Although people can opt for those countries many couples are doing jobs and cannot take leaves. It is hard for such people to go to the clinics that are pocket-friendly. They cannot afford such treatments in their own countries. Therefore, for such people, there must be an option for debts and loans. I wish that government take this issue into their notice and may formulate some policies regarding it. Good Luck.

JosefinaJosefina
posted 9 months 1 week ago
Hi Jane,

Nice to see another post from you!

I must appreciate your strong mindset. You said this is the third time you will be going for IVF... I must say that salutes are in order.

Though as much as I want to encourage you with IVF, I can't seem to fake it. You should have preferred surrogacy over IVF. IVF sucks! That's what I've heard from everyone I know who went on exploring different alternatives and of all the options on-hand, they ended up selecting IVF and of course regretted.

I'm not someone who'd try to discourage a person going for IVF, I just don't understand why they don't go for the best alternative when they have the option. IVF and surrogacy cost pretty much the same.

New research shows that surrogacy is getting more popular these days, still when I go to forums, I see ladies mentioning they opted IVF. I hope this to be a communication-gap because otherwise, one should really be following the trends.

minaminaminamina
posted 7 months 4 weeks ago
Hello dear! I wish you best of luck with your 3rd attempt of ivf! They say that with each next try chances to get pregnant increase. I hope this will work for you and you will become a happy mom! I've been in TTC for 8 years already. This number seems so huge to me! I know that some women are trying to conceive even longer. But these 8 years were so tough for us to live through. I'm also looking into ivf using donor eggs. I believe this option will help me and my husband to become parents. This is our last chance. We put our hope in it. I wish you good luck dear! I hope you will update us with great news very soon!

Maggie674Maggie674
posted 7 months 1 week ago
The headaches are awful but all too common I'm afraid. Keep drinking lots of water and try a couple of paracetamol with one ibuprofen (ibuprofen should be ok to take at this point but check with your clinic) it's the only combo that works for me, in general. I think your doctor is right prescribing you some pills. Is this your first ivf cycle? Keep positive attitude and everything will be alright. Wish you all the best.

martaandymartaandy
posted 7 months 1 week ago
hi there dear. I am really sorry for that. just plz keep pattience. be calm. everything is going to be alright soon. don't take tension. There are many other ways as well. Don't worry about anything. Be calm.

cornyhashcornyhash
posted 7 months 6 days ago
Hi there! I’m sorry to hear your story. I still think you’ve got a chance. Also, with so many clinics available these days, in the States and outside (though I prefer the latter), I don’t think IVF or Surrogacy need to be thought of as super expensive procedures. Where are you getting the treatment? I mean are you in the States? If so, I think you have all the right to say this. Clinics in US can cost you an arm and a leg. Anyway, I wish you a very best of luck, honey. Keep us updated about the progress.

jessparkerjessparker
posted 7 months 5 days ago
Hey ! You are a solid young lady . I wish you all the best for your third IVF attempt. Have you been getting IVF treatment from the same clinic ? I would like to share some tips for a successful IVF attempt. The most important thing is to have a healthy routine. Meditation and healthy diet will help you the most in this case. You must get all the negative feelings out of your mind. It is also important to keep your caffeine consumption low. I hope that this works out for you. My prayers are with you. Keep us updated xx

kimmyjinkimmyjin
posted 7 months 2 days ago
Hello ladies.Pregnancy is a most sensitive time in a woman’s life, and my hope is that with better options than IVF, women can experience theirs not with dread, but with great expectation.I was making decisions out of fear and other unruly feelings rather than out of a clear mind that was capable of weighing the risks and benefits to all persons involved, including any new human life that may be created in the process. I believe every life is precious, no matter how small, and I know that, for women who want to get pregnant, this belief is vivid. To best serve these women, we should push for technologies that don’t lead infertile women to more fears, increase risks to their health, or force them to experience the all-too-common and very tragic loss of a child.

joannesmithjoannesmith
posted 6 months 4 weeks ago
I am really sorry for your condition. I know this is not your fault. wherever these things happened. We just don't know what to do with us. This is really overwhelmed and devastated situation for us. Well just be calm dear. We can't do anything else. Just be sure that you'll be patient and keep calm. Best of luck for future dear. I hope I helped you.

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