The Trophy Wife

Do any of you consider yourself "trophy wives" or do you know of any?

I've been married for a long time and never felt my husband and I bought into this philosophy, as I always worked. But now that I am a stay at home mom, I am starting to think he would wish I would play as trophy wife, instead of a overtired depleted washer woman waiting to be able to get back in the workforce.

Is this even an outdated philosophy, or do guys out there still want women like this?

I think trophy wives are a bit of an outdated concept! I think of course it's lovely for a man to be proud of his wife, but to be nothing more than a good looking statue of a wife is kind of sad, in my opinion! I like to think my husband values me for more than just the way I am as an outward appearance.

My partner seems to want both. He wants me to work than again he wants me to stay home and look pretty. He is a jealous type of guy and when I am supposed to work he is against it because of his idea that I will find someone else. Which is absurd I might add, but in this generation I don't see trophy wifes anymore because economically speaking times are rough.

I think it depends on the guy whether they want a trophy wife or not. I do not know of anyone that wants this. All the married couples I know both have jobs as two incomes are needed to pay the bills. I think that this may be an outdated concept that most couples do not buy into anymore unless this is the way they were brought up.

I think we are all trophy wives; we deserve praise and acknowledgement every time. We get things done with the home, the children and satisfy our husbands; what more do they want?

My husband seldom gives me trophy remarks because he says it will get to my head and could make me act up. Where he got that from I wonder, so I don't even expect anything and just praise myself within me and when I have some extra cash, I get myself something nice because I know I sacrifice my time, weight, looks and freedom for family life.

darkchild said:
I think we are all trophy wives; we deserve praise and acknowledgement every time. We get things done with the home, the children and satisfy our husbands; what more do they want?

My husband seldom gives me trophy remarks because he says it will get to my head and could make me act up. Where he got that from I wonder, so I don't even expect anything and just praise myself within me and when I have some extra cash, I get myself something nice because I know I sacrifice my time, weight, looks and freedom for family life.

I love how you got this right on point and I don't know why men feel they cannot feed our ego's. Since being with my partner and father of my kids I can only one time when he said and praised all that I have done, and kept strong for us and the kids. I can't explain how wonderful it felt to actually have that acknowledged. I haven't felt burden since he said this to me and gave me great motivation to keep standing and working for my family. But I will only treat myself in my deepest pleasures of food and eating something that I have been craving for. I am easily happy and contented with what I have. Praise to you and all the mommies here

Thanks guys, all your responses help assure me that he's nuts! We were never that kind of people, but I think he grew up with families like that, and to be honest I see a bit of it where we live now. It really hurts my feelings in a way, because I feel he doesn't want to acknowledge any of my sacrifices or work I do at home for our family, and instead he just wishes I would go get a latte and be grateful to him that he is so awesome I can stay home.

Huh, what I would give to be a "trophy wife." Lol, just kidding! To be honest, I'm not much of a trophy wife. I cannot even remember the last time I put makeup on or even brushed my hair. Although I'm a stay at home mom, I also work as well online. So with all that, and house chores and taking care of my son, it's no wonder I cannot even be a trophy wife for my husband.

And like you, no one even acknowledges what I'm doing. I have never even once heard a "thank you" from my husband even though I'm the one staying at home and working for the family. He is in medical school right now so I handle the home and the finances. And it's extremely difficult to do both. And that's why even being a trophy wife is something that seems pleasant to me.

I've seen my previous classmates who are stay at home moms with a nanny by their side. And sometimes I envy them. But you know, that's life. Some people have all the luck in the world. While there are wives like us, who has to work as well as take care of the household.