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The Richer Spouse

posted 1 year 11 months ago
When your spouse makes more money than you do, does this make him/her feel more superior over you subconsciously? Also, does the spouse with the bigger pay check make the decisions in the home or it does not affect you as a couple?

posted 1 year 11 months ago
Yes, absolutely. My husband certainly feels and has always felt superior due to his paycheck. But he has never rubbed my nose in it, and it doesn't translate into him being the one in charge, or the decision maker. But I know certainly he feels superior because of this, and I kind of think it is ok, because after all it is an accomplishment for him.

posted 1 year 11 months ago
My husband currently makes much more money than I do, but that has never affected our relationship. I don't think he feels superior over me and I don't feel that way too. After all, those are our family's money. I'm really happy for him that he has the opportunity to provide for our family more than I do. However, I don't think he would be comfortable if, at some point, I start to earn more than him:)

posted 1 year 10 months ago
This doesn't apply in my family. We have always been putting the money we earned together and we just spend time when necessarily. Whenever we make any big decision in purchase, we'll discuss together. I am glad that money is never an issue to us, we always think as long as we have enough to spend on our needs, that's good.

posted 5 months 4 weeks ago
In most families it does and that is really a big problem. I think though it shouldn't be a problem. Couples should know that sometime in life the roles will reverse and its important to embrace each other

posted 5 months 3 weeks ago
That is a very important problem. Most times it depends on what has been discussed about it. Most people assume that this won't be their problem but it becomes one. We need to establish our understanding of that aspect with our spouse. As long as both of you understand that the partnership extends to the economics of the household, along with the other responsibilities, then you mostly will avoid that problem. But if that is the source of competition within the household then it may not be easy to go about. It is also a very sensitive subject, but I personally benefitted from speaking of it.

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