Dad to Pregnant Wife
So being on the receiving end of a pregnant wife's rage can be disastrous to say the least. This is baby #4 for us and this will be the last. Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl. I am going to just come out and say it but after being in the military for 6 years, nothing scares me like that beach rounded baby belly wife of mine. I am sure that some of you other dads and moms can attest to my words I am saying. DON'T TAKE THE BAIT! Now what I mean is, it is ok to get the lure by the oval hole, that is fine when she wants it but, if she starts edging you towards a fight or some other form of hurt emotions, JUST DON'T BITE! I know with our first baby she was still in college, she got 3 degrees while having 4 kids, 3 with me 1 came included when she met me. We got into some petty argument and she escalated it so quickly that she started stabbing and pushing buttons that hurt. She then felt she would not talk to me for the rest of the drive home, about 15 minutes. I was trying to figure out what was wrong and she wouldn't even look at me. I can tell you now, throwing her $395 USD Biology book out the truck window, IS NOT THE RIGHT WAY TO HANDLE THAT SITUATION. It got her attention though. So after I got to say what I wanted to say, I realized I was wrong. The fights you have during the pregnancy don't always stick in your brains, or hers, but they can still cause unnecessary strain in the relationship. Each pregnancy has been easier than the last. I know some "simple' parents, CRAZIES, are all loving and caring towards each other the whole way. YOU CAN NOT TELL ME YOU NEVER HAD PROBLEMS IN PREGNANCY! IT IS A LIE! Dad to Dad, take it easy and see that she is creating life and it isn't always easy to deal with all the added stress of bills, getting "FAT", finding time for each other, especially if you have more kids already, doing the things y'all enjoy, yes that includes your wife, and/or even just having a quiet dinner. To the pregnant mom to be or has been, just ease up a little ok. It is a difficult time for both of you and this can be hard or easy but, you need to have open and honest communication. It really helps. Take a break and have dad do some of the chores to let you relax. I draw my wife a bath every morning to help start her day right. After that I make the bed and try to get the kids fed. Today was extra special and my wife's birthday. So I woke up extra early to surprise her with a homemade cake, never made one before, and it came out great. She was so stunned and even offered me the meat. I declined as it is her day. It is seriously the little things that mean the most sometimes. So make life easier for both you and her. Just find time to talk and enjoy each other's company. It is not always, happy wife, happy life. It is, a good team wins the the gold. So, hope y'all have had a good day and made you think a little.