Single father, large family

So here goes, my first ever blog...
As I write, it is the 20th of march, around eleven at night and it is four days untill my youngest, Helena, turns five.
Perhaps I should clear up a few things first.

I am a 43 year old male, who is currently single, and lives with his six daughters. (except one of them, who is at university)
I have a part time job, working as a gp in a local clinic.
I met my wife when we were 18, she was, and will probably be, the most gorgeous, gifted, smart and funny woman I have ever met. Although I had never concidered myself marrying untill my mid thirties, We married when I was 22, and she 21. We had six beautiful girls together and were truly happy. She passed away allmost four years ago..

I still remember it so vividly, the wait up, she had lukhemia so we had a long time to prepare.
Although those latter days are fainter, the ones I tried to wipe from my mind, I remember the worst thing was, for her , not the pain or fear, but not being able to breastfeed Helena, who was barely one at the time.
I have always considered that the girls took it very well, as easy as they could, anyway.
I had a friend who went through a loss similar to mine, who had two teenage sons; in thoose last few weeks I could not stop running through my mind, how they had become deppresive, going to their rooms straight after school and not talking to anyone, they began to truant in school and flunked subjects they had previously excelled in.
I still did not know if it was due to the fact they were girls instead of boys, or that their mother did not pass away very suddenly or some other reason that they managed to pull together and get through it. And for that I am prouder than I ever thought I could be.

Perhaps I should give you a little background infomarion about my life, there are certain questions people always ask, and I would prefer to get them answered now, rather than in reply to comments:

-Firstly, my name is Aaron and you can feel fine to adress me such in your comments.
-These are the names of my six lovely girls and their ages:
Annie - 20
Laura- 18
Kate- 16
Francesca- 13
Molly- 8
and Helena- 6

-Me and my wife never planned to have six children. (you wouldn't beleive how often that gets asked) we just, I don't know, kept on going... I am an extremely rational person, yet with me and Evelyn (my wife) there was no questioning about it. Friend used to joke that we'd never stop, that we were building a army etc. Yet I think we both knew the girls were the best things that had ever happened to us, and saw nothing wrong with having more.
-Another popular question is how I afford to raise six demanding girls. Thankfully, I have never had a problem with this, both me and my wife came from fairly well-off families, and my wages as a doctor, and hers as a writer earned us a seven bedroom house in Dulwich with an expansive garden.
-Do I have anyone to help me with the girls? Yes, we have a full time au pair girl/slash nanny, Aurelie, who has been with us for over three years she does a large amount of the cleaning, helps with the children, and will sometimes cook for the family if I am late back from work. She is as much a part of the family as one of the girls.

And that's all from my first installment. If you have and questions I'd be glad to answer them.
Thanks Aaron

Comments

Mumzebo
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

Hello Aaron!

I've just fallen into your blog and had to sign up just so I could respond.
I guess I really just wanted to say hi. It sounds like you have got parenting covered but I am sorry for your loss.

I have a family of 4 children, 2 are my own and 2 in long term foster care ages 2 - 12. I am in awe as I thought my life was hectic.

I would love to know what made you write your blog? and I can't wait to hear your next installment.
take great care
ax