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How do I build confidence in an 11 year old boy?


My son is 11 years old, is a gifted student, and does very well in most things he tries, and he is a good looking child.

We have always praised our children, he is the oldest, but he is extremely hard on himself, he is a perfectionist and this does consume him in his school work. He says he's ugly, and weird, and is now being verbally bullied at school by most of his classmates.

What else can I do to help build confidence? I am terrified this will continue into his teen years and be devastating for him in high school.

2 Parent's Answers

Best Answer!
Give praise. If a child is struggling in school, teachers should go out of their way to look for opportunities to compliment him when he does do something right, even if it’s something small. Not only does a steady influx of praise make kids feel happier and more confident at school, but psychologists say that “catching kids being good” can help positively shape their behavior, too.
Support is what he need. This is a simple thing but it will surely give the kid a confidence. Compliment him also. About the bullies at school, it is more appropriate to talk with the school about this, just don't let the kid know. He might be bullied more if the other kids know that you take actions about this bullies.
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