what do you think?

lee has a lil boy to ex wife, hes nearly 7. she has got a new fella, theyve moved in and are planning a family. nothing wrong there. however, ben (lil boy) was telling us about his "dad" (the new man).

we think thats wrong, he doesnt call me mam why should he call him dad? ive been in his life since he was 1, new fella only been the a matter of months we think.

she would be first to kick off if we had got him to call me mam. not that i would want him too, i wouldnt want my kids callin anyone else mam so wouldnt do it to her.

I don't think she should have him calling this other guy Dad. His Dad is alive and well and still in his life, there's no reason for him to be calling any other man Dad, in my opinion.

Aaralyn has asked Mike on several occasions if she could call him Daddy and we've gently explained to her that he's kinda like a daddy to her because he will be there for her when her daddy can't be but that she already has her own daddy to call daddy. I think with Aaralyn it's that she's missing her dad and she hears Amber calling Mike daddy so she may feel slightly "left out"... She's agreed that Mike is her "Mikey" and daddy is daddy and seems ok with it for now.

I would have your OH talk to his ex and explain that it would really bother him to have his son calling another man dad. You would think she'd understand it but I don't know the relationship your OH and his ex have so it's hard to say how she'll respond to it.

Good luck with that hun!

my eldest isnt my oh son and he calls him glyn.he has been in his life since my son was 7mth.ollie sees his dad and his new wife but he doesnt call her mum. i dont think it right ur oh son is callin him dad at all.good luck it a tricky one

id put my foot down on that one, if the stepdad is encouraging it thats wrong he has a daddy, but i can see where it would get difficult

they dont have a fab relationship but it is getting better.

ben told his nana (oh's mam) he has 2 dads and she got straight on it saying. that he doesnt he has 1 mam and 1 dad, and that he doesnt call me mam so he doesnt call him dad.

were just waiting for her response prob on sat when we pick him up. oh likes to keep the peace, so wouldnt have said anything.

It seems wrong to me but I know people who have been through the same situation. The compromise my friend made was that Daddy was Daddy and her new hubby (who child kept asking to call dad) became Daddy XXXXX. The Dad sees his daughter every 2nd weekend so sees more of the new hubby and has lived with him longer than Dad. I think it comes down to the individuals.

i think if they were married and had they had other kids we wouldnt be as upset. he calls oh dad and he was callin new fella dad 2.