hello

this is the second time i done this post dont know wat went on with the first one but never mind, happy new yr every one, not been on much been so busy with xmas and daniels birth day, omg he 11 now, thats gone so fast, well here goes, every time my man around daniel has a strop, he knows my man cos we all lived 2 gether for a yr then we split up and decided to live apart, great or so i thought, now daniel is like this, i dont want daniel 2 think its all his fault nor do i want my man 2 cos i love them both, just dont want to feel like piggy in the middle, wat can i do????????

hi hun and a happy new year to you too,
i carnt imagine what kind of position you are in and how this is making you feel. i know it carnt be good all round.

i no you said your son is 11 do you know if he is just acting upon the matter ? maybe he doesnt want to share his mam? i mean if it has just been you and your son for a while . this is also going to be hard on him too. sorry if i am of no help but they are the only two things i can think of xx

befor i got with my man it was just me and daniel for 5 yrs but he was ok wen we all lived 2 gether, just dont know wat 2 do, dont wanna loose my man, but daniel comes first

i understand. you need a life too. of course your son comes first. i IMHO think you need to sitdown with your son and get him to talk openly with you and try solve it out that way. but also explaining to him that mum does have a life too. good luck x x

Happy New Year hun!

Maybe your son is playing up as he feels that your man has taken some love and attention away from him - even if he's known your man for a while!

I agee with Mitch sit him down and explain to him you still love him, that he is your life. Arrange a few special days together - doesn't have to cost the world - and indoor picnic, some board/computer games games etc?

Ask him if there is anything the three of you could do together!

Life is never simple is it - arrgghhh. Bless you

hey hun. great to see you back

i kinda know how you feel. jami is 11 and was 5 when i met james. we'd been on our own since she was 3 months old. at first she loved james then catherine was born and it all went downhill. she was so jealous of catherine (and still is) and will fight with catherine to get either mine or james attention. its not so bad with ben.

i always make a point of having time with just me and jami and just jami and james. it has helped, but with you and yr son living together you have that already.

i agree with the others in sitting him down and asking him why hes acting like this and that hes still the most important person in yr life

hope it all goes ok xxx

Hi is it possibe daniel is worried you will split up again. My parents used to have terrible arguments that would really scare me they would break up and things would be horrible i would watch my mum cry all day evenyually they would get back together which was the worst part for me. maybe Daniel feels the same but as mich said you will need to talk to him to find out.
x x x

Happy new year hunnie

Do you think maybe daniel would like you all to live together again and feel more like a family? I know that when my parents split up all I wanted was for us all to be living back in the same house, sorry I am not much help hunnie but my best bet would be to try to sit and talk to him like an adult and ask if there is anything that you could all do as a family to sort out this behaviour x x x

Happy New year

Hope this situation gets sorted for you. I've never been in a situation like this, but I think what the other have said is good advice. x