really worried about my daughter when shes at school

Abbie-lynne started school for the first day 3 weeks ago on the first day she came home really happy and i was over the moon. But since then i have had alot of problems with her bless her.
On her second day i got a phone call of the school receptionist saying abbie-lynnes teacher had been to the reception asking them to call me because abbie-lynne had fell over and banged her head badly by falling over i rushed to the school and was really upset to find my baby had a black eye and a big lump on the back of her head. When i got her home i asked her what had happened and she kept saying i dont know. Then when i took her in to school the next day her teacher the one who was ment to have gone to the reception and told them she had fallen over said "oh my gosh look at her eye i havent got a clue how she did it i had to get them to ring you because i couldnt calm her down she was really upset" i told her what the receptionist told me and she couldnt give me an answer why it was said that she had fallen over SO I STILL DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. Then on all went quiet untill last monday i went to hold her hand after school and she said "be carefull mummy my fingers are sore" i asked her why and she told me two girls had been nasty and kept hurting them. I quizzed her teacher the next day and was told it would be delt with. Then on wednesday abbie-lynne came out upset again i asked her what was wrong and was told that she had been left in the toilets at dinner time on her own and she was scared and didnt know where to go she said she was crying and crying and when a teacher came she was told of because it was her fault she had been left in the toilets because she wasnt fast enough so they left without her. I was furious I went back to the school but the teacher had already left. We than called the school the next morning and told them we wanted to see the head teacher we was told HE DOESNT WORK MORNINGS YOU WILL HAVE TO WAIT TILL 2 O CLOCK. I refused to send abbie-lynne in untill i spoke to him so i kept her home. Me and my partner went to see the head at 2 and have said we want regular meetings and want our child looking after as it shows that she isnt being looked after while she is there. She has seemed better since she went back on monday but im really worried about what im gonna here when i pick her up.

Has anyone else had problems like this?
And do you think im being over protective?

No hun you are not being too overprotective. I would have been furious if my child had been left in the toilets crying - let alone coming home with a black eye and the telling me they didn't know how it happened.

I hope the meetings go well and you see a result for little Abbie-lynne. Being happy at school is important for your daughter and good for you for standing up to the school.

thanks hun i just didnt know weather people would think im being overprotective because she is my first child to start school. But its more upsetting because she loved nursery and never stopped talking about it when she got home and i thought she would be the same a school but since she started school she wont talk about it she just seems to go into a daze when i try talking to her about it bless her i just hope it gets better x x x

hey hun! i would be furious and i would take things furthur and report the school for neglect! you are putting your child in the hands of them and it is their responsibilty to protect your child.
my neice was recently bullied (this was at high school tho) she was jumped numerous times walking home,aswel as in gym,3 girls beat her up while the young PE teacher stood and watched! my sister had enough and got the police involved after numerous failed visits to the teachers and head! it was only by getting the police involved and also it being published in thelocal newspaper that the school did somethingabout it! but what annoyed my sister the most was that my neice was suspended for 2weeks (for her own protection) my neice was the one punished of an education while these bullies got away with it!!
luckily tho the police did a pretty good job and scared the girls with a threat of court action,to which they got upset and apologised - my neice and these girls are now friends!

Hey Hun,
I dont for one minute think you are being over protective, i for sure would also be furious if that was my little un and i would be demanding somethng done too.
It isnt very fair that a 4 year old should have to deal with so much in such a short space of time!!! poor lil mite im suprised she wanted to go back at all, stick to your guns hun and makesure they do something about it, failing that have you no other schools close by you could change her too?? i had problems with my sons 1st pre school he used to come out all with drawn and never happy they used to shout @ the kids and they clearly had their favs in there too, i got very angry and took him out, put him into another that he absolutly loved!! he is now in nursery and so far so good there. but honestly hun dont let them fob you off and good luck in your meeting, school is supposed to be fun and the best days of your life, not go there to get hurt all the time .

Thanks hun i am determined to get to the bottom of it. She has come home alot happier today as its the harvest festival tomorrow and she has got the lead roll in the play bless her im so proud of her. Got the next meeting with the head master tomorrow will update you then thanks for your replies. I just hope it stays like it has been today x x x

you also need to speak to the parents of these girls hun

oh my gosh!!! i'm right along with the rest of you girls, that's horrible!!!! i hope everything gets resolved quickly for you. i'd definatley follow up, if your still having a problem, there is always someone higher up the ladder.