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Im getting sick of this

staceybstaceyb
posted 8 years 9 months ago
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Jami's just come home in tears. in her last lesson she had to leave the classroom and when she returned her bag had been thrown across the room, contents everywhere and her planner thrown outside in the rain. when she went to retrieve it a boy ran off with it

so i called lucy (the woman dealing with it) and shes going to sort it and try and get the planner back. if its gone then she said she'd give jami a new one free (too pigging right cause im not paying a fiver for something jami's not lost!!!!!!!!!) shes told me to tell jami that it wont happen again. but it is happening again and again and again. im soooooooo pi55ed off with this bullying its unbelieveable and im this close to pulling her out of that school

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


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SAHMSAHM
posted 8 years 9 months ago
oh no! I would be furious too! I hope things get sorted soon and something is done to those bullies Bad!

hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Stacey I'm sorry to hear this is going on Sad Big hugs to you and Jami Hug

Bullying is such a horrible thing and there's such a vicious circle that goes with it.

I hope it gets sorted and if not I wouldn't blame you for moving Jami to another school if it's possible, that could give her a fresh start too. I really think that if parents would really make a strong effort to teach there own children that it's not cool to bully it would make a huge difference.

Keep us updated on what the school is going to to about it ok hun! Hug

And for Jami Flower Hug

tigger197613tigger197613
posted 8 years 9 months ago
i take it this lucy woman is within the school if the school are not doing enough you are within your rights to go to the board of governers and the to the education authority as it sounds to me like you have given the school plenty of time to sort this , also i would suggest keeping a diary of everything that has happened , phone calls etc but if you cant remember i would start one, i can relate to how you feel as i too have had to deal with the same thing , has the bullying go physical ?

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Hug

Sorry Jami is going through this. Where exactly was the teacher when all this was going on? Bad!

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Where was the teacher? and who is Lucy??

Sounds like things have become really bad, poor Jami Hug

I would be going to her head of year or the Head teacher now. Start recording EVERYTHING that happens for Jami and any conversations you have etc note the date and the time etc.

mum2popsnjakmum2popsnjak
posted 8 years 9 months ago
I can't add anything that hasn't already been said hun, but i just wanted to send Jami and you huge Hug I know what it is like to be bullied as it happened to me throughut my school years and was horrible. I really hope you can get this sorted for Jami Hug Hug Hug Xx

staceybstaceyb
posted 8 years 9 months ago
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thank you all for replying. lucy is the person who deals with any bullying. jami has been given a 'bullying book' which she fills in everything that happens. we have been to the head of year and it was basically swept under the carpet. its virtually impossible to talk to the head. james sent emails out last night to the head, head of year and even the LEA. the head has read the email and james called after he knew he'd read it. someones supposed to be calling him back but were still waiting 40 mins later.

it got physical. she was hit round the head on the way home from school. ive called the police and theyre coming out after 4 tonight to talk to jami.

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Poor Jami.

Well done for getting the police involved and keep on at the school, they have to do something.

LucyLucy
posted 8 years 9 months ago
any news on the police? Im so sorry that shes going through this I was bullied at school and as soon as i get a whiff of something i get it nipped in the bud.

Gemma was getting hassle at school a couple of years ago and as soon as i found out then i spoke to the kids mother, shes made her apologise and write Gemma a letter.

Got it stopped b4 it got worse.

Poor Jami, shes got my thoughts

mum2popsnjakmum2popsnjak
posted 8 years 9 months ago
I really hope you have had a reply from the school hun and i hope the police have been out to speak to Jami too. Fingers crossed all will be sorted very shortly! Hug Xx

staceybstaceyb
posted 8 years 9 months ago
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well school finally got in contact at 3.35pm and no it wasnt the head grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr they have spoken to the kids, and the boy (i am going to name him) dane said he didnt hit jami but threw a sausage roll in her direction and it happened to hit her WTF????????????? it must have been well old and hard cause it really hurt her. he apologised and has written a letter of apology. remember though this is because hes obviously been told to do it.

his punishment????????? this is the great bit..................................................................................... half a day in isolation! jami had to do a whole day in isolation for just forgetting her planner. great isnt it????

the bag incident theyre fobbing off as it must have 'accidently' been knocked on the floor and the contents lost. my fricking arse it was.

im cooooooo peeved its beyond belief and still the heads not getting involved

the police are coming round anytime this evening

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Have you been into the school in person? I would go and make an appointment with the head (and tell the office it has nothing to do with them why you want to see him(or her) it is a personal matter that you want to discuss. Then explain EVERYTHING and tell them how upset you and Jami are that nothing is being done. And Jami deserves better than having to put up with this at school.

Im not sure how the English system works but I have heard about governers etc try speaking to them, or if you have an area officer responsible for Jami's school contact them aswell.

mum2popsnjakmum2popsnjak
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Thats atrocious (sp?) hun. I would do like Alex says hun and go into the school with Jami. Demand to see the head and don't let them fob you off. It is none of the offices business why you want to see the head - you just DO!

Maybe the police can give you a few tips too hun? Xx

hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 8 years 9 months ago
WTF?? Mad This has got me angry too!! The school should not be brushing this off... I agree Stacey, I would not let it go at that... to be honest, I would let them know you're considering pulling her from that school too!!

Bullying is talked about so much at Aaralyn's school and it is made very clear to the parents and the students that there is a no tolerance policy for it at the school... The Principal (I'm assuming what your school head would be?) has an open door policy as well as the class rooms. I can walk into Aaralyn's class at any point I want to and observe. At the Open House night after school first started they talked about it and how the school has one an award every year for having low or no incidences of bullying. THere is a behaviour specialist? there called Mr Skinner and the kids know after a warning they will go see him. Let me tell you I would not want to have to go to Mr Skinner's office if I was that age.... Picture Wesley Snipes only darker and taller!! (and really freaking handsome too I might add Naughty ) but the kids respect him and I think he is a big reason why the bullying doesn't seem to be an issue at Aaralyn's school....

Hug Hug Hug Hug Hug Hug Hug Good luck hun, let us know about the police visit too when you can Hug

krazymookrazymoo
posted 8 years 9 months ago
awww hun, thats horrible to hear, its not nice being bullied, i should know, i had it from primary school and secondary school. i agree with talking to the school governors about it, maybe they can help by doing something about it, i have no clue on how my mum handled the situation when i was at the school, i think she threatened them by saying shed pull me out of the school and go to the school board about how terrible the school was. they eventually did something. but i must admit bullies always find a way, wether in school or not. x

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 8 years 9 months ago
Hun I'm really sorry that the school aren't taking it seriously Sad

I really doubt this isolation thing they do now, I just don't get it tbh. Especially when they can put Jami in for a day for forgetting a planner and only 1/2 a day for bullying!

LucyLucy
posted 8 years 9 months ago
I cant beleive only half a day! thats laughable! Scared

glowingsunglowingsun
posted 8 years 9 months ago
I wouldn't take her out of the school and away from the friends she has. Thats' like expelling the victim from school. But I do understand your anguish. I went through quite a bit of bullying at many schools I went to. If the teacher is not watching for signs properly then the next step is to takl to the proncipal. Then if things don't shape up go to the school board.
Another thing you can try doing is to volunteer for a day in the cafeteria or monitor recess. Don't let out the fact that your a bullied students mother and explain to your daughter to not address as mom or treat you like mom because you are going under cover to find the problem. It's sneaky. But it may just be necessary.

staceybstaceyb
posted 8 years 9 months ago
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i like the undercover work LOL. sounds great.

well the police came last night at 9.20pm Shocked and its all on record now so if something happens again (heaven forbid it does) then weve been told to make sure we contact the police. jami didnt want to take it further as it had been 'dealt' with at school. IMO it hasnt but i dont want to make it any worse for jami.

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