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BLeon1221BLeon1221
posted 2 months 4 weeks ago
Hello, I am part of another forum and I saw today an story which really made me think. I consider it so interesting that I asked permission to the one who posted and she told me it was okay. Than in fact she wanted to share it.

"Hello my name is Emma I would like to share my story and I wish this would help other people who may found themselves in the same situation. I am from Lima, Peru now I have a beautiful daughter named Dalma, she is my treasure after 4 years of TTC. Me and my husband are medium level citizen we arent rich but we can live quite comfortable and happy lives. We had been married for what would be 10 years, I am now a woman who is around 40 years old and our little baby has 3 years. Me and my husband met during work I was a teacher in one of the towns deep into the mountains and my husband working for a Mining company in that same town. We met for accident and we rapidly fell in love. We marry quite quickly but we had quite a happy time together, after a year of so we began wanting to have a child. We had reached some sort of stability so we tried for a year but we ended with no positive results. After trying for a couple more months we went to see an specialist which inform us after many different test that I could never get pregnant. I am sorry but I dont wish to share the reason of my infertility as is something which is way to personal to share it right now. What I can say is that it affected me and my husband really hard, he began to grew distant using his job as an excuse to be alone. We went through some hard moment until we eventually sit and talked with the help of a common friend along with his and my parents support. Eventually after making peace with each other we seeked other ways I could become pregnant. In the end because of my condition we could only go for surrogacy, and while at the beginning all went well we went to specialized center and gor a surrogate mother. The nine months passed in a flash and in there tragedy strike. You see according to the laws in Peru the surrogate mother can wait till she has given birth to change her mind. We treat her well and made sure she could be as comfortable as possible we make sure she was sure during different stages of the pregnancy but at the end when we had our hopes crushed as she changed her mind and took out baby. We once again felt like we were hitting the bottom. We were dubious of trying for another surrogacy after such experience but after a couple of months we decided to try again. Fortunately it went well and we have to our little adoration. I would like to advice other people to look into the surrogacy laws in any country they want to try before they go this path. Some laws doesnt support people like us who wants to have family, I hope this helps. thank you."


Shree1990Shree1990
posted 2 months 3 weeks ago
I can imagine the pain all of you suffered in this situation. I understand it can be heartbreaking to hear in that last moment that your baby is no longer going to be yours. I feel for you. The girl too must have gone through such roller coaster of emotions, knowing that she could just give away the baby and carry on with life or not let go because of the few things she realised on her journey. That is probably why clear communication of our feelings before such a step is taken is important. We must try to learn the cause of her voluntariness, what made her choose this path. What are her feelings about babies, her plans for the future and establish whether how likely is this person to change their minds? If they are doing it for money, then what do they want it for, if that means more to them than the child then it is unlikely that they would change their mind. But if this is their way of making money to live comfortably, then they may change their minds, because somewhere along the way of being a mother, you start to see the phoniness of luxury, and you actually become aware of what is important.

Alice2321Alice2321
posted 2 months 3 weeks ago
This story really leave a big impression in me. While I knew things like this happens this is the first time I am hearing of an actual case. I can totally understand why you would like to share this Brenda. This are the type of stories which makes people have people, that make people who had been struggled after a while that at the end of everything there can be a happy ending waiting for them, that their dream of having a family must not remains as only that a dream. I was totally moved by that woman story, knowing how hard it was for her it really make my heart ache. But it wasn't only her, while I dont agree with the surrogate mom suddenly denying them the child she had agreed to give them. I cant help but think how hard it would be for any woman to give up their child regardless of the reason. That being said, seeing that they were nice to her and treat her with the utmost respect and consideration I take her a really strong reason should have been needed for her to change her mind and do something like that to the people who had been good to her. It makes you wonder, makes you think a little different about the situation not only from Emma perspective but also from the surrogate mother. Regardless I think the other message it shows, about doing the research and showing that in some countries the laws aren't the same is a really important message. I hope many more people read this story and are given hope about their condition.

michael24x7michael24x7
posted 2 months 2 weeks ago
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BLeon1221BLeon1221
posted 2 months 2 weeks ago
Hello Michael, while I totally agree with your words and opinion about this story I posted I would like to make an aclaration for the sake of not creating misunderstandings. This story is the story of a friend I have in another forum, just like in your case it touch me and I asked her if I could share this story in another forum I am part of for the sake of inspiring hope in other women with this case of a person who struggle a lot and finally ended with a happy ending, along with teaching a valuable lesson about the situation of surrogacy in other countries. So once again let me tell you this isn't my story but I am glad there is people like you who understand the message she tried to communicate and show so much support. I appreciate you also sharing a little of your story and that much information about it. I think sharing stories like this one is one of the best things we can do as a community to support and help each other at times like this one.

moonmoonmoonmoon
posted 2 months 6 days ago
I am sorry to read a story ...

michael24x7michael24x7
posted 2 months 1 day ago
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nooranoora
posted 1 month 2 weeks ago
Hello OP! Thank you for sharing this story with us. I'm sure it will give strength and hope to many girls here. This story definitely will make everyone to think about their TTC. We shouldn't waste time. Sometimes it seems there is no way out and we let depression take over, ruining our relationships. All we need is just seat and talk with our other half and decide what to do next. We are using European clinic. Our sm is pregnant and we'll go for our first ultrasound check in a week. I'm so excited! Can't wait to see a scan) I can't believe we'll have our baby in a few months. I wish all of you the best with your journeys!

HilaWriterHilaWriter
posted 1 month 6 days ago
Hi @ BLeon1221
Indeed your story is interesting, and I am shocked that the law in Peru allows the surrogate mother to make up her mind after she has given birth. I think this is what made the surrogate mother deny the intended parents an opportunity to have their baby. It is sad especially when you consider that the couple did all they could to ensure that the surrogate mother lived comfortably. The made sacrifices and invested in the surrogate mother only to lose their investment at the last minute. This is frustrating and discouraging. However, I think this is an exceptional case, and it is just 1 out of the 1000 extreme cases. I have a friend who received surrogacy services from biotexcom and from what I gathered from him, it was a smooth process from the start to the end. The law in Ukraine allows and recognizes surrogacy thus the intended parent sign a contract with the clinic detailing the undertaking. The clinic has a team of legal experts who help draft and sign the contract. This ensures that everything goes as per the agreement and it reduces instances of the surrogate mother changing her mind as it is in this case.

HesterHester
posted 2 weeks 8 hours ago
That is so sad to hear. It must have been so hard to come to terms with the fact that the child was no longer yours. Despite that, you managed to land on your feet. Now, you have a daughter. Your story though is just what many couples like you need to hear. It reinforces the need to check and double check all the laws and requirements regarding surrogacy. Doing this can save a lot of emotional pain, time and money.

MaureenMaureen
posted 1 week 6 days ago
Thanks for sharing but oh my God, why did they let her take it? She pretty much knew when volunteering to become a surrogate. I don't believe Peru's surrogacy laws either, no offense ladies. I think you should have done a little more research. The best and most logical surrogacy laws are in practice in Ukraine. I'd advise all who are making up their mind to select the right country to be sure they have Ukraine on their list too.

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